alcohol and sex

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Registered: 05-11-2005
alcohol and sex
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Sat, 11-04-2006 - 7:04pm
Every now and then SO suggests something that I'm hesitant about, but after a few drinks, I'm a willing participant. I never regret doing these things, but it does take a few drinks to lose my inhibitions. I'm just curious whether there's anyone else who uses a few drinks to overcome their hesitancy to experiment or try something new.
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Registered: 10-18-2001
In reply to: wild29
Sat, 11-04-2006 - 9:20pm
Definitely when I was younger it wasn't uncommon for my partner and I. We would often have drunken sex. I wouldn't say that it was something intended to loosen the inhibitions, but it definitely did, and things were done that we wouldn't have done sober. No regrets as such. Personally I don't see anything wrong with a couple of glasses of wine or something to ease the nerves now and again, but if it's something that you have to do regularly then I'd be inclined to take another look at the relationship.
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Registered: 10-28-2006
In reply to: wild29
Sat, 11-04-2006 - 10:11pm
Hi wild... I completely agree with westridge...also wanted to add that it could be a subconcience thing that if you have a few drinks then do it... if it turns out it is not for you, you already have an excuse lined up when you hear the inevitable "Well... you did it the other night." I see nothing wrong with a drink to loosen up before experimentation. Sex IS experimenting... you will never know if you like something or not unless you try it. BUT at the same time... never do anything you DONT want to do. You always have the right to say no and your partner should respect that. Your situation sounds just fine!! CHEERS!!
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Registered: 07-26-2005
In reply to: wild29
Sun, 11-05-2006 - 2:14am

Alcohol loosens the inhibitions, but you have to question why you NEED alcohol to be completely free with your SO? Also, are you later saying, well, I wouldn't have done that if I'd been sober?

Many people have a drink or two to relax, but if you have to drink to get loose, then maybe you need to try to figure out why......before you become dependent on alcohol to be able to allow yourself to enjoy experimentation.

Remember also, that experimentation is just that. You try something, even if you're hesitant.....and then you say "that was great"......or "never again"! If two people DON'T experiment occasionally, what a boring and dull sex life they will have.




Edited 11/5/2006 2:17 am ET by dakine001
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Registered: 04-27-2006
In reply to: wild29
Sun, 11-05-2006 - 2:55am
I agree my girlfriend and I rarely ever drink any alcohol before having sex and we really enjoy it. If there is a special occasion, then we will have some wine sometimes and we do sometimes drink beer. But we mostly just really enjoy making love, having sex without it, and we did try things sometimes.
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Registered: 10-18-2006
In reply to: wild29
Mon, 11-06-2006 - 3:02pm

Sure, I've done things during "drunk sex" that I might not have done sober. But, nothing that was regretful, if that makes any sense. I certainly don't drink to have sex, but it does seem to losen things up, like I tend to talk more.

I agree that if you need it, you need to look at why. But, I don't think that was what you were saying, was it?

 

 

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Registered: 05-11-2005
In reply to: wild29
Thu, 11-09-2006 - 7:20pm
I don't do anything that I regret doing, but because of my upbringing, sometimes I feel hesitant to do it. So I suppose I use a couple of drinks to overcome my hesitancy and do what I really would like to try, but under normal circumstances would feel reluctant to do. I don't know if this makes any sense to others, but it helps me.