Alcohol's Effects?

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Registered: 01-21-2005
Alcohol's Effects?
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Tue, 03-14-2006 - 2:04pm
Ok, I know alcohol can affect a man's "performance" and ability to stay hard. However, does he have to be fairly drunk for this to be the case? My bf doesn't drink often, and I'm his first partner, but on the few occasions he has drunk something--anything--he can't stay hard, even if its just a single glass of wine and the only other effects are slight light-headedness. He's had occasional past (discussed in past strings) difficulties with maintaining hardness if we don't allow a long enough recuperation period etc... and have had to fight through some psychological stuff. WHen this has happened after he drinks something, he automatically blames it on the alcohol--is he right? I know people have sex while drunk all the time so it seems strange to me that the slightest level of intoxication renders him incapable... anybody else know more?
Cassie
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Registered: 07-26-2005
Tue, 03-14-2006 - 2:12pm

He's not other people. We're all different. Everyone metabolizes alcohol differently. If he has a problem every time he has even one drink, then it would make sense for him to not drink.

Not all men are capable of having sex while drunk, either. Everyone reacts to it in a different way.

If he's had to "work thru" psychological problems, it's very possible that he hasn't "worked thru" them, and he's just trying to ignore the problems by medicating himself with alcohol.

If he's concerned about his sexual performance and he thinks it's the alcohol, then he'll stay away from the alcohol. If he can't do that, then he's got more problems than you realize.

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Tue, 03-14-2006 - 3:07pm

Yes, different people are affected in different ways by alcohol the same as medications affect different people in different ways.


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Registered: 01-24-2006
Tue, 03-14-2006 - 4:24pm
I had a BF who couldn't keep an erection when he was drunk, if he had one he was usually okay. But for him, too much meant no sex, he didn't get sleepy cause we would stay all night and fool around, he just couldn't stay hard. Me on the other hand, drunk doesn't really matter, if I'm in the mood, I'm in the mood, sober or wasted either way. And don't have any problems at all.