Always Erect

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Registered: 01-04-2005
Always Erect
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Tue, 01-04-2005 - 3:03am
My BF and I have been wondering why he becomes erect so often even when there is no stimulation. He says that he won't even be thinking about sex and he becomes erect. I noticed that it sometimes bothers him because he becomes erect at awkward times. We were just wondering if anyone had any insight on this. Thanks :)
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Registered: 05-27-2004
In reply to: trina_baby
Tue, 01-04-2005 - 10:00am

How old is your boyfriend? Young men get erections often, that's not unusual. As they get older, they learn to control it better. It's a known fact that men think of sex constantly, even when they're not aware of their thoughts. This is probably what's happening to him.

If he's worried, or thinks there is something wrong, then he should see his doctor.

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Registered: 11-15-2003
In reply to: trina_baby
Tue, 01-04-2005 - 10:20am

Dear trina,

GTB is absolutely correct, this is extremely normal for young men and occassionally even true for older guys. The sexual response takes place primarily in the parasympathetic nervous system, so the response is often slightly below our consciousness "radar".

A little embarrassing, but let your boyfriend know that there are very few men that have not experienced this for a period of their lives.

Peace.
Scott.

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Registered: 12-20-2004
In reply to: trina_baby
Tue, 01-04-2005 - 11:35am
This used to happen to me in my late teens/early 20s. I would sometimes find that just talking to my gf on the phone, etc. -- not at all about anything dirty, it could be whether I'd recently done my laundry -- would cause me to get a full erection, sometimes in front of others -- hopefully not too noticeable in clothes. I think it's just Pavlov's dog thing -- things you subconsciously associate with sex -- combined with raging hormones. Admittedly, very embarrassing, but it's not voluntary and there's not a lot you can do about it, unless you fancy wearing tight underwear which I didn't. Believe me, the ultimate horror in college is to be on a varsity team in the locker room and get a boner -- doesn't happen very often at all but when it does, the more you try to forget about it the harder it gets. So humiliating. So humiliating that no one bothers to poke fun at you; it's just silent 110% embarrassment.
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Registered: 10-23-2003
In reply to: trina_baby
Sat, 01-08-2005 - 3:42pm
I'm in my 50's and I still get these spontanious erections. Its not reserved for the young. Enjoy.
Jim