ALWAYS waxing & shaving..what a bugger!!

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ALWAYS waxing & shaving..what a bugger!!
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Mon, 11-01-2004 - 3:22pm
Ok Girls I have a question:

I don't get waxed/shaved every two weeks for a couple reasons 1.) Money 2.)Sometimes I'm lazy hehe. When I refer to waxed/shaved I mean everything, down there, legs, underarms..the works.

But then when we're in the heat of the moment I SO regret not getting waxed. I honestly do not want to be in front of him if I'm not taken care of that way lol I just don't feel as attractive as I do when I'm all "ready" lol. I know he doesn't care, like he's told me whatever I want to do with my body is my choice but I feel so gross having sex and not shaving or something!!!!!

Isn't that such a bugger??????

ALWAYS having to shave or wax just IN CASE..like its such a pain in the butt lmao

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Mon, 11-01-2004 - 7:41pm
Cari and Shoegal....your posts are so sad...feeling grubby and insecure if your pubes aren't perfect. There is so much more to confidence than a razor. Honestly, aren't there much more important things in your lives than worrying about being seen with a bit of stubble?

This is where I'm at odds with the whole pubic shaving thing. It's all well and good if like Tally and Tish it's kept in perspective. ie; not important in the grand scheme of things. But when a girl feels grubby/unattractive without shaving, I feel that the whole thing has gone too far. I mean...IT'S JUST PUBIC HAIR. And as such, it's really not a big deal. We all have it - get over it.

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Mon, 11-01-2004 - 7:57pm
LOL Um that was pretty rude. Everybody has different comfort levels why is it so hard to get this across to people these days??

Hair isn't important in the grand scheme of things that is completey true...but a lot of women feel better about themselves this way. How is that sad??

I DO NOT feel my best if I don't maintain myself..that's just the way I AM and that's the way TONS of women are...I don't get this concept that it's sad for a woman to want to feel her best for the man she exposes herself to every night or however often they have sex.

There's no such thing as perfect and I don't think shaving and waxing makes a person perfect, sorry. lol. It's the notion of maintaining yourself that I'm speaking of, it has nothing to do with trying to be perfect. My bf doesn't give a rats ass is I shave an arrow down there or if I let it all grow out because there is no such thing as perfection, he's told me that lol. And I've said the same thing to him; There's no such thing as perfection, or normal. Only Common. But I feel cleaner and better if I maintain myself. Like I said...that's me. Whatever we all have our differences of opinions. Not trying to get argumentitive.

This expands to my own personal theory on people letting themselves go when they get married. For ie. just because you're married it's not excuse to eat like a moose and never exercise just because your SO won't care what you look like. Same goes for this. Just because I know my bf loves me despite any unattractive things I find about myself, it doesn't mean I'm never going to shave again.

My point was it ruins the mood if you're all ready to have sex and then you realize you didn't wax... it's kind of a bugger. I didn't say it was the end of the world.

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Mon, 11-01-2004 - 9:07pm
Oh well, I probably will never understand. Perhaps part of my lack of understanding is cultural. We Aussies seem to have much less interest in such things as pubic shaving. I didn't even know that it was so common until I got on this American site.

I've just come out of winter and haven't had a razor near my legs for months. The only time I remember my armpits is when DH reminds me...as for pubes...who cares? A quick trim is as good as it gets.




Edited 11/1/2004 11:54 pm ET ET by iv_aisha2004

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Tue, 11-02-2004 - 9:50pm
Honey, I look and feel my best nekkid in bed with DH, doing whatever we want, lol. If I were *that* concerned with looking good all the time for sex, I'd be spending an hour primping and doing the makeup thing. And I don't want to do that for sex every time! I've got a tummy, I've got stretch marks from childbearing, my body is not perfect although *I* (and DH) like it just fine. I've been with him from age 17, he's seen my body in all sorts of ways and he still likes it a lot.

I haven't always shaved -and I still enjoyed sex. It's something that is *supposed* to be there. I feel presentable for him however - and I've gotten no arguments from him at all.

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Tue, 11-02-2004 - 9:55pm
It's not an Aussie thing - I just don't understand the whole idea of not feeling good or avoiding sex because of SHAVING. I tend to do the legs more in summer because of showing them more (pubes are a different story, ain't showin' them to the world, lol) but hey, now that it's getting cooler and I'm wearing jeans and pants, it's not an every other day thing. I figure if it gets long enough, I'll just cornrow it and put some attractive beads in it!
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Tue, 11-02-2004 - 10:10pm
I have a lot of respect for you. From the bottom of my heart, I think that's amazing. I hope one day I have as much wisdom as you for understanding myself that way. That's so terrific.

I'm still in that phase where sometimes I feel like I look great and other times I feel..blah. lol. It's funny cuz it was only recently that Dan started ranting how beautiful and perfect and blah blah blah I was and I sat there speechless as he was telling me this. Like...I don't wear make up and I'm almost always in sweats and running shoes and he loves it more than when I get done up. lol. Which I laugh at but whatever floats his boat lol. I know he accepts me for the way I am, as I do him, but you know that feeling you get after you come home from the salon all waxed and all squeaky..I love that feeling and I'm so used to it that I feel awkward if I haven't.

But you know, when we're in bed and we're all naked and we look at each other and just remind one another about how much we love the other, my stubs are the last thing on my mind.

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Tue, 11-02-2004 - 10:19pm
Neither my DH nor I will miss out on some great sex just because one or both of us might be a little hairier than normal because of a lack of time or energy. etc. And we sure won't allow it to affect our enjoyment either.
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Tue, 11-02-2004 - 10:44pm
>>>We Aussies seem to have much less interest in such things as pubic shaving.<<<

I suspect that if you hit the Gold Coast there pubic shaving will be, and will have been, much more common for quite some time. :-)

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Tue, 11-02-2004 - 10:56pm
Why do you say that?
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Wed, 11-03-2004 - 2:05pm
shoegal writes;

"But don't you just enjoy it better when you feel you look your best or are presentable?? I've talked with so many of my friends about this and it is somewhat true. We ALL feel cleaner, nicer is we're all taken care of before sex."

This post makes me so sad.

"you look your best", "presentable" "cleaner" "nicer" - only if you are freshly shaved or waxed. What is bad, unpresentable, dirty, and not nice about pubic hair?

My wife doesn't shave or wax and she is fantastic. She takes a shower(twice a day) and takes care of her skin with lotion, exercise, eats right, takes vitamins, brushes her teeth 4-6 times a day, and she IS presentable, nice, clean, and her BEST.

Why make all these judgements over a little (or a lot of) pubic hair?

taoist

and BTW, do some of you really go to a salon and let a stranger wax your pubic hair?

And then you're worried about what the man who loves you might think.