ALWAYS waxing & shaving..what a bugger!!

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ALWAYS waxing & shaving..what a bugger!!
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Mon, 11-01-2004 - 3:22pm
Ok Girls I have a question:

I don't get waxed/shaved every two weeks for a couple reasons 1.) Money 2.)Sometimes I'm lazy hehe. When I refer to waxed/shaved I mean everything, down there, legs, underarms..the works.

But then when we're in the heat of the moment I SO regret not getting waxed. I honestly do not want to be in front of him if I'm not taken care of that way lol I just don't feel as attractive as I do when I'm all "ready" lol. I know he doesn't care, like he's told me whatever I want to do with my body is my choice but I feel so gross having sex and not shaving or something!!!!!

Isn't that such a bugger??????

ALWAYS having to shave or wax just IN CASE..like its such a pain in the butt lmao

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Wed, 11-03-2004 - 3:28pm
If I offend anyone, I'm sorry but this is just bugging me now...

I use lotion, I work out, I eat healthy....and I do that for myself not for my boyfriend, I love him but he's not my internal KING.

Which brings me to another point...I wax and I do all of that for the same reason. **I*** feel better that way. Which in turn, explains why having sex when I don't feel my best, is AWKWARD and a BUGGER.

And yes I go to a place and get waxed...when do I ever see these people?? Ask me how much I care what these people think of my body?? I wanna look my best for him and myself! How is that at all a bad thing?

And when I say feel cleaner, nicer before sex I don't mean it that way..the context in which I spoke adored the tone that all my friends and I agree that when we're all waxed and everything...WE FEEL CLEANER = COMFORTABLE TO HAVE SEX.

I consider bad personal grooming unpresentable. I don't like the feeling of hair on my legs EEW and that's EEW from ME not my boyfriend. I wax my legs before I go out wearing skirts...I wax my bikini line if I'm going to the beach. I don't confine those things for just when I'm in public. I do it all the time, as MANY MANY MANY women DO.

>>>>>>>>My wife doesn't shave or wax and she is fantastic. She takes a shower(twice a day) and takes care of her skin with lotion, exercise, eats right, takes vitamins, brushes her teeth 4-6 times a day, and she IS presentable, nice, clean, and her BEST<<<<<<<<

And what about if she did shave and wax? Is THAT being unpresentable and dirty?? In her mind she is clean and happy that way....in MY mind I am clean and happy my way. So it shouldn't make anybody SAD by any means. I'm not WORRIED about what he thinks...I'm worried about what I think and I think I look my best when I do these things.

So honestly, if I find it a pain in the butt that I continously do this then it's ultimately my problem but I'm entitled to rant..just like men rant about how their gfs or wives don't take care of themselves and/or don't find hair all that attractive.

*Oh how I LOVE my boyfriends a beastly-hairy back*...do you hear that often??? NO that's why MEN go for back waxes!!!!!

hence my point...

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Wed, 11-03-2004 - 4:19pm

Hold on Ash, I have a BIG problem with your stereotype of *married people*


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Wed, 11-03-2004 - 4:23pm
>>Why do you say that?<<

Gold Coast, Surfers... sun, sand, bikinis, thongs, g-strings, beach babes,...... some of those girls have been wearing g-string swimming costumes for years. They were probably using the Brazilian before it was known as the Brazilian.

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Wed, 11-03-2004 - 4:27pm
Someone said:

>>Why make all these judgements over a little (or a lot of) pubic hair? <<

I always feel better when I am well groomed and freshly shaven if I'm going out for an evening. Come to think of it I always feel better having sex if I am well groomed, smell good and freshy shaven etc. I can't see why you can't extend that to pubic shaving?

Of course a little hair isn't going to stop me having sex with my partner but being well groomed always makes us feel better about it.

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Wed, 11-03-2004 - 6:16pm

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Wed, 11-03-2004 - 7:06pm
Hair? I'd love to worry about feeling gross by not shaving/waxing. You haven't felt gross until you've had BAD,BAD,BAD psoriasis. I have it all up and down my legs, close to my crotch and my arms and neck. I lucked out, my man doesn't find me gross.
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Wed, 11-03-2004 - 8:53pm
Okay I didn't mean to offend you...but generally speaking...A LOT of people let themselves go when they get married. Look around man, if you look at a BMI scaler..have you noticed that as people get older they shrink in height but it's OKAY for their weight to go up??? That's because in our society as people get older, they stop taking care of themselves, like you said BECAUSE OF LACK OF TIME..also because of stress and everything. And that BMI scale is like that because gov't's don't want people to realize that they are being over-worked to the point where they overlook themselves and sacrifice their health for other time to do more important things like making money*. I'm not saying there aren't people like you who take care of themselves..that's grea that you do that..but look around..it's very true that people generally stop paying attention to themselves as they get older.
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Wed, 11-03-2004 - 9:30pm
Uh no. I would disagree with your generality as well. If you'll notice, the obesity problem you mentioned in this country is across the board, age-wise, it has nothing to do with being older necessarily. There are as many people YOUR age who are overweight and out of shape than ever before. None of my friends neglects their health or appearance because as you age, you don't take it for granted anymore.
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Wed, 11-03-2004 - 9:31pm
Obsessed is a strong word. For one, it's customary for bodies to change that's not the kind of thing I'm worried about. I'm speaking of little things that we do to keep ourselves looking attractive in our own eyes. Doing eyebrows...thats a small thing..but tell me that when you do your eyebrows you don't feel great??! I dare any woman who's done their eye brows or done an upper wax lip or what have you, to tell ME that they feel MORE attractive when they neglect doing those things??

I know when I do those things, I feel my BEST.

Everybody is concious of their bodies regardless. Unless you're conceited and you think you have the perfect everything, your concious of some part of your body. I'm concious of hair..I think it's (I'm using gross for a lack of a better word) gross just...because I DO!

>>>>> what I don't get, WHY or HOW does realizing you didn't wax or shave ruin your mood??<<<<

Okay...I get grossed out pretty easily...that's just me. I get squeamish seeing my rag for heaven's sake. I'm very particular about stuff like that I like to be SQUEAKY clean and by squeaky I mean, waxed and scrubbed and everything. (I work at the body shop you can imagine, I like to pamper myself.)

My boyfriend supports me however I choose to be, which I know..and I choose to be squeaky clean, all the time, waxed, prepped...THE WORKS..that is the way I FEEL COMFORTABLE and in order to have sex you have to be COMFORTABLE...

Oh and for the record..

If I'm having a "fat day" or an "ugly hair day" or a "hairy day" then I'll decide whether getting in the mood is possible. My boyfriend knows when I'm in good mood which is almost always, or if I'm in a bad one...and if I'm in a bad one...and he's horny...he has enough respect to leave SEX alone and pay attention to ME not my "down there".

Where do you get the idea that "you should ALWAYS feel good about yourself"?? That's such a humanistic way of looking at yourself. lol. It's not possible to ALWAYS feel good about yourself. People have UGLY days lol. You gotta accept those and so does your partner. You can't expect that of yourself. Feeling grubby isn't saying I feel insecure. I'm very secure with the way I am and I'm very self aware, otherwise I wouldn't be able to rant about such a thing. Insecurity are things you are embarrassed to share...but I'm clearly not afraid of sharing the things I don't like on my body seeing as I'm talking about it now and I talk about it all the time with my friends and even my bf. He knows I hate when I haven't gotten waxed or don't shave, I tell him about it all the time ..and he laughs because he knows I'm neurotic like that. That's the way I AM.

I hate hairy legs and even though I'm blonde..I find it VERY unattractive. In my eyes when I see that stubble start up I saw "EEW". It's like people who don't like bugs!

I'm not obesessed about my body, I'm neurotic about things that gross me out and I'm proud of it!! lol You have to find humour in this..I find it funny that I get so grossed out but you go have sex on your rag..like people are REALLY different and it's not a bad or obsessive thing!!

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Wed, 11-03-2004 - 9:45pm
I'd love to send you a study I JUST completed and am currently working on an essay and analysis for...with a Uuniversity prof, studying Human behaviours in eating and physical activity.

I'd particularly like to show you the section on how people are no longer HYPOKINETIC when they begin to settle down in family means because they are no longer concious of their bodies because according to theorists "...people who are in permanent relationships i.e marriage, no longer maintain their concern with pursuing life-long mates therefore, they tend to neglect their outer body image."

In a study of 12 men and women (6 couples)...Being at an "average weight" in co-ordination with their height, being physically active and eating generally healthy and maintaining a mild level of stress in their lives. After marriage, or the realization of common-law, 5 of the couples, 10 men and women, reportedly became either overweight or obese in the next 3 months to 7 years...assuming they HAVE NOT had children (so that's even looking at people who are not confounded with the stress of raising families so you can imagine the increase in those cases), in co-ordination with their height or shrinkage in height.

Sorry for getting all scientific. But I'm speaking from factual information according to a North American study at a qualified University. I prefer to go by this generalization rather than a popular idea that you think I'm going for.