ALWAYS waxing & shaving..what a bugger!!

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ALWAYS waxing & shaving..what a bugger!!
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Mon, 11-01-2004 - 3:22pm
Ok Girls I have a question:

I don't get waxed/shaved every two weeks for a couple reasons 1.) Money 2.)Sometimes I'm lazy hehe. When I refer to waxed/shaved I mean everything, down there, legs, underarms..the works.

But then when we're in the heat of the moment I SO regret not getting waxed. I honestly do not want to be in front of him if I'm not taken care of that way lol I just don't feel as attractive as I do when I'm all "ready" lol. I know he doesn't care, like he's told me whatever I want to do with my body is my choice but I feel so gross having sex and not shaving or something!!!!!

Isn't that such a bugger??????

ALWAYS having to shave or wax just IN CASE..like its such a pain in the butt lmao

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Wed, 11-03-2004 - 10:25pm
I would love to read it but I as a former market researcher myself, I know that based on the factors and criteria in a specific study, you can produce just about any outcome you desire. I just don't buy that married people become less conscious of their bodies because that certainly hasn't been my experience nor the experience of anyone I know. Obesity is a problem in the US but as I said, it's across the board in age.

And I would think that ANY person....single, married, with children or without, of any age, would gain weight if given the same stress and responsibilities of working mothers, for instance. My contention is that age has less to do with weight gain than lifestyle and genetics. People tend to get heavier as they age, not out of laziness or an unconcern with their appearance, but because the metabolism slows. Not to mention that the scale will reflect solidification of the bones in the 30's.

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Wed, 11-03-2004 - 10:55pm
yes and as your metabolism slows, people who are in "committed" relationships tend to neglect that notion HENCE their weight increases. Metabolism does not slow own it's own either. It slows down on the basis of diet, and physical exercise and also, natural human resource.

Anyways I was saying, I wasn't pointing fingers or being specific..my theory is that a lot of people DO stop taking care of themselves after marriage. If you want to differ, I respect your opinion but in every family, look at older generations, if everyone was naturally a stick, it's probably either because of 1.) amazing genetics or like tish for ie., 2.) they work at it. In my experience, looking at families and couples, that is my opinion on observation.

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Thu, 11-04-2004 - 1:25am
I'm assuming this study was to compare the bodies of married/committed people to unmarried people? If so, what results were shown for the people who remained unmarried? What percentage of them became obese?
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Thu, 11-04-2004 - 1:36am
I suppose that all I can say is how lucky you are to have stubble as an issue in your life. My life has far greater problems (a disabled child) and as such, I'd love to have a life so easy that body hair actually rates as an topic worth considering.

You see, one of the things that you will find when having discussions with us oldies, is that we've got far more important issues in our lives. And likewise, we've forgotten how easy life can be at your age. Enjoy your body hair issues before they get replaced by life's more important issues.

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Thu, 11-04-2004 - 6:45am
I know a family that dresses up to the nines for dinner every single night. They believe that people who don't dress up are "letting themselves go."

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Thu, 11-04-2004 - 7:08am

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Thu, 11-04-2004 - 7:43am
Tish, my husband takes care of himself. He loves to make himself happy. His idea of taking care of himself is eating the foods that he enjoys. LOL Since we have been together(15 years), he's put on 60lbs(6'1" large frame). He's a busy man, and has not changed his level of activity since I met him, nor has his appetite changed. It's only been in the last ten years(as he's aged) that he began to put on weight. It's not what I prepare, it's the additional food that he eats outside of the home. He has lost weight in the last year(35lbs), but he misses all of his pit stops. He had to succumb to his metabolism.
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Thu, 11-04-2004 - 10:56am
But your premise was that people who will naturally weigh more than they did in their teens or 20's and who are married, don't care about their appearance anymore. That's quite a leap of logic, isn't it? Based on weight gain alone?

I weighed about 15lbs more at 40 than I did at 20...does that mean I stopped caring about my appearance? No, it means that my body is changing with maturity. And that's a natural process but you simply can't compare a fully matured married adult to a still maturing 20-something. That's just comparing apples and oranges.

YOUR body will change as you age, regardless of how much time and energy you spend maintaining it, it will still change. You can't stop gravity and you can't prevent many of the aspects of aging, though many have tried through surgery, etc. So, perhaps rather than comparing older married adults to single 20-somethings, you should compare single adults to married adults and that would provide a more realistic comparison.

And an example of teen weight gain is the famous "freshman 15." Put a teen in a new social situation, expose them to new stresses and expectations, new diet and routine, and bam, extra weight. Age and marital status has nothing to do with that situation. Stress causes weight gain in ALL age groups and lifestyles.

BTW, 10 couples isn't a significant sampling with which to come to a conclusion about most married adults. I could take 10 couples of any age and probably come up with similar conclusions based on the same criteria.

And that's just my opinion based on my personal experience.




Edited 11/4/2004 12:17 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001

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Thu, 11-04-2004 - 2:42pm
>>BTW, 10 couples isn't a significant sampling with which to come to a conclusion about most married adults. I could take 10 couples of any age and probably come up with similar conclusions based on the same criteria.<<

I was thinking about this last night. 10 (or was it 12) couples is far too small a section of the community to make a study on. Considering the socio-economic factors that also play into weight gain, one would need to take a reasonable number of people from EVERY socio-economic group to acertain how ageing effects us.

If the study that shoegal was looking at was using people from a low income/welfare background, it would easily explain the outcome. Where as if they were all from high income background, I believe the results would have been quite different. (Comments based on my experiences of living in an Aussie capital city)

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Thu, 11-04-2004 - 3:25pm
Agreed and that's shown to be true since people with higher incomes are less concerned about saving money at the grocery store and tend to have access to unprocessed, fresher, more healthy food while lower income people will choose what is more affordable like processed meals, white bread, etc.

And of course, this isn't necessarily because they CHOOSE to or because they don't care about their appearance but out of economic necessity.