ALWAYS waxing & shaving..what a bugger!!

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ALWAYS waxing & shaving..what a bugger!!
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Mon, 11-01-2004 - 3:22pm
Ok Girls I have a question:

I don't get waxed/shaved every two weeks for a couple reasons 1.) Money 2.)Sometimes I'm lazy hehe. When I refer to waxed/shaved I mean everything, down there, legs, underarms..the works.

But then when we're in the heat of the moment I SO regret not getting waxed. I honestly do not want to be in front of him if I'm not taken care of that way lol I just don't feel as attractive as I do when I'm all "ready" lol. I know he doesn't care, like he's told me whatever I want to do with my body is my choice but I feel so gross having sex and not shaving or something!!!!!

Isn't that such a bugger??????

ALWAYS having to shave or wax just IN CASE..like its such a pain in the butt lmao

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Thu, 11-04-2004 - 5:12pm
Funny that this is a subject right now because for the past year or so, I have been people-watching in malls, stores, etc, and thinking about weight. And I have looked at a large number of young people - I mean teens and early 20s - and thought 'What the hell am I worried about? I'm 38, have had 2 kids and STILL look better and am sizes smaller than many of these really young women!' I see so many very young people that are huge.

I look around at women my mom's age, 50s and 60s and while most of those women have gained *some* weight (and the body tends to shape differently when you age) over the years, none of them are very big. They all do the pedicure, manicure, eyebrow waxing, buying nice clothes thing. They have stashes of skin care products, they color their hair, wear jeans and trendy clothes. My coworkers were astounded when my mom stopped by one day...'Thats your MOM???? She looks GREAT!" I also see many older women in their 70s and 80s in our office every day. There isn't a one of them that is obese. The ones who come in with diabetes, with high BP, with sleep apnea, etc, all seem to be young women. And every one is obese.

My mom and I have been talking about this recently and we've come to the conclusion that loving and accepting your body the way it is and swung far to the other side. Also, many generations past stayed thin because they didn't eat the way we ALL do (not just marrieds), didn't eat Krispy Kremes and Starbucks Double Lattes, didn't supersize, didn't eat out at all, but ate simple foods that they raised themselves. And they had to work hard every day, just to do daily work. When you have to handscrub every piece of laundry, haul water, and raise every bite you put into your mouth, you work it all off - something none of us do. So many people will even ride around a parking lot for 10 minutes to get a closer spot rather than (god forbid) have to walk to the store.

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Thu, 11-04-2004 - 5:31pm
So true. My son (due to revulsion at food textures/the whole autistic thing) has a VERY limited diet. However, one of the things that he will eat is sausages. So I buy the very best sausages that are available. 100% beef with no fat. But if I didn't have the income, I would not have that choice.

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Thu, 11-04-2004 - 5:59pm
Our lifestyle entails how healthy we are. The study I helped oversee, was of 12 people. In my study those were the results. There were 13 other people overseeing as I was. Multiply the 13 research sections by 12 subjects in each study.. Maybe I should've specified but I didn't want to make it any more complicated that it is.

People in society succumb to metabolism levels, diseases, unhealthy lifestyles...etc etc.

I'll make this more fair to maybe ease the tension in this discussion:

In my family and families I've seen, people get married and they stop looking after themselves ..for ie. my friends aunt said to me the other day "I used to be like you but now i don't have time"...she doesn't have any kids they've been married for four years and she's gained 15 lbs...

That's what I think and I also think if you are not in this category then good for you.

and going back to the original post...Waxing and shaving is a bugger but I do it anyways and I'm happy I do!!

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Thu, 11-04-2004 - 7:10pm
Shoegal, it's all well and good to quote "science" at us, but if you are to do so, you must give us a broad picture of your data. Figures that aren't comparable aren't worth anything.

So. If you can give us the results for your 12 people...what were the overall results for the 156 married people? What was the socio-eoconomic background of your participants? How did this effect their education esp. their knowledge of healthy eating?

Also, to be able to accurately compare weight results of married people to unmarried people, you would also have to have studied 156 unmarried people of the same age in the same socio-economic spread. What were your results there?

>>In my family and families I've seen, people get married and they stop looking after themselves ..for ie. my friends aunt said to me the other day "I used to be like you but now i don't have time"...she doesn't have any kids they've been married for four years and she's gained 15 lbs...<<

Can you PROVE that marriage is the reason they put on weight? Statistically, what would have happened to them if they had remained unmarried? People get married when they get older. People also have slower metabolisms as they age. Can your research prove that marriage is the key to weight gain and not simply a slowing metabolism?

>>Waxing and shaving is a bugger but I do it anyways and I'm happy I do!!<< Why make a post complaining about something that you are happy to do? There's no sense complaining about a grooming choice that you make voluntarily.

Have you ever thought of posting on boards for those in their 20's? Perhaps they may have a lifestyle more similar to yours and be able to relate to your issues?

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Thu, 11-04-2004 - 8:46pm
I can't help but laugh at the '15 lbs in 4 years' comment. So she's gained a little over 3.5 lbs a year. While that could add up to a *lot* if kept at that rate over 20 or 30 years, it really doesn't seem like that much to me. 50 lbs over 4 years would be a significant amount. 3 lbs a year in your 30s (when metabolism starts slowing) isn't that much to me - calling that 'letting yourself go' makes me laugh.
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Thu, 11-04-2004 - 9:11pm
Interestingly enough, one year ago I would have agreed with Shoegal that weight is simply a reflection of what we eat and lack of exercise - brought on by no longer caring. But this year, as I've turned 37, my metabolism has just gone blech. I've been married for the past 12 years - so that's got nothing to do with it. And my eating/exercise regime hasn't changed - so the only answer is metabolism.

Yes, you're right about it being a smallish weight gain. (I had to convert it to kilos to figure it out!) The thing I've discovered with a slowing metabolism is that the goal is no longer to stay the same weight, but simply to keep an acceptable BMI

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Fri, 11-05-2004 - 12:16am
Yes, the loss of physical education programs in public schools, fast foods in the lunchrooms, and the invention of video games has had a devastating physical effect on way too many young people. I've seen many, many teens and 20-somethings with obvious weight issues.

But getting back to adults, I have friends of various ages from 34 up to age 67 and only one is what I would consider heavy. The rest look very slim and athletic because they work out regularly. But we all do this, not so much to remain slim but to maintain our health. My grandmother stayed within 20lbs. of the same weight her whole life (and after 6 children!) and looked great well into her 70's, as does my MIL at 72 and a size 6. She was a size 10 when her son and I married so she actually looks better as she's aged.

But I would never say that just because someone is heavier than they were in their 20's that it's because they're married and therefore, they've stopped caring about their appearance or are now unaware of their bodies. You can be heavier and still be healthy and attractive since there are all kinds of body types.

I just think that the idea of what is attractive in our society today, at least what is promoted in our media, has become so skewed toward an ultra skinny look that it's completely unrealistic as well as unhealthy.

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Fri, 11-05-2004 - 12:38am
Hey, maybe she was only gaining back the weight she lost for her wedding! So many women try to diet, diet, diet themselves down to an unrealistic weight for their body type, in order to fit into that perfect gown, and then wonder why they gain it all back after the fact. Your body "remembers" the weight you've maintained for 5 yrs. or more and will fight you to put it back on. I think more realistic ideals makes more sense than trying to look like someone you aren't.
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Fri, 11-05-2004 - 12:40am
Kat, your observations are pretty much the same as mine.

Which leaves me wondering: where are all the obese people (kids and adults) that our stats so often quote? I have said repeatedly that socio-economic factors play into this - and I am in a mid-high income area, but on my observations that would leave about 80% of obese people in poorer areas. It just doesn't feel right - or do economic differences create health problems that extreme?

Meanwhile, as I said in an earlier post, my metabolism has seriously slowed this year. And I'm having a huge problem getting used to the difference. In past years - if I had a day of big eating, all I had to do was have a good day and I'd be back to normal. But it's not like that anymore. I'm a bit of a slug by nature (would much prefer to be sewing than walking) and love my food. The lifestyle changes that I suddenly have to start are a bit hard to get my head around.

Aisha

(hiding in the PC room and sipping wine while typing - but that's the kid's faults. They are little buggers this Friday afternoon - tired, cranky, fighting and DS is being particularly autistic. They keep saying "I want, I want, I want" and if I hear them say "MUM!" one more time I'll scream. Would any readers willingly go back to having a 5 and 7 yo?

No takers? Oh well, heading off to glue some dried lentils on paper....

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Fri, 11-05-2004 - 12:45am
"Our lifestyle entails how healthy we are." Yes, in part. You're forgetting genetics which play a significant role as well. Life span and general health and most importantly, body type are determined or affected by heredity.

Jim Fixx who was a champion marathon and long distance runner, was the epitome of great health until he dropped dead during a race at age 45. He had inherited a bad ticker from his father.


Edited 11/5/2004 1:53 am ET ET by katmandoo2001