Am I bad at BJs?

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Registered: 07-19-2007
Am I bad at BJs?
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Thu, 07-19-2007 - 7:28pm

Out of the 4 times I've given my bf a bj, only once has it seemed like he really REALLY enjoyed it. Last night when I gave him one, it took a really long time for him to ejaculate. He said it was amazing, that it was just his body wanting him to stay hard, but I have no idea. There were times when he would start to get excited, but then when I kept doing what I was doing, he stopped moaning and stuff.

I haven't had much sexual experience, so I'm not sure if there is something that I'm doing wrong, or if it is in fact his high sex drive. I want him to be blown away. Any tips?

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Registered: 07-10-1999
Thu, 07-19-2007 - 8:23pm
It may be that your guy would just be that way with any girl so don't take it personally if it doesn't seem like anything is happening. If you are looking for tricks and suggestions, and to know which parts of the penis is most sensitive, then this article is going to be very useful to you:
http://www.sexuality.org/l/sex/fellatio.html
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Registered: 10-28-2006
Thu, 07-19-2007 - 11:01pm

Hi!

Bad at BJ's probably not. The way I see it you can only get better.
It's hard for me to get DH to cum when giving a bj but I know for a fact
he is enjoying every second of it!

Here's some quick tips.

Don't be nervous!

I like to use both hands one to stroke his penis like a HJ
while I lick him in circular motions I use the other
hand to play or massage his balls Dh loves this now other
men may be to sensitive for this. Let your hands also rub his
thighs and butt as well. Keep your hands busy that way he never knows
what's coming next. Change the intensity you use moving your hands from slow
to fast to a firmer grip back to soft. Same with your tongue. When you make him moan by hitting a certain spot remember it and tease him with your tongue. This is bound to get
him excited. He could also guide you and tell you what feels best while you are
doing it. DH guided me in the beginning it was fun he loved it. It was a turn on for
both of us.

Hope this helps
kareese

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Fri, 07-20-2007 - 6:38am

Welcome to the board goddessamyloohoo.

Chances are he is very happy with the BJ you're giving him. It could be that he is holding back on ejaculating because he wants to continue to feel the pleasure as well! Having a high sex drive won't make him enjoy it any more or less.

Most of his sensitivity is on the glans which is the ridge at the base of the head of his penis. If you concentrate on providing sensations to that part of his penis, you are working in the right direction. Many guys also enjoy having a combined hand job/blow job. As far as the shaft goes, you can apply a lot of pressure there (the more the better) while sliding your hand up and down. Be sure your hand also goes over the glans.

Another area for attention are the balls. Since they're tender, you need to have a lighter touch here, but try cupping them up along side of his penis as well as sucking and licking them. Sometimes applying a light pulling pressure (away from the body) is also good. Just below the balls you will find the perineum. (It looks a bit like a seam line!) The perineum runs from the base of the testicles to the anus. Applying pressure and massage there will help to stimulate his prostate gland -- which is very pleasurable.

If you are both open to anal play, try using a finger to massage his prostate. (Make sure you don't have a sharp finger nail for this one.) If you place your finger into his anus, have it face upward and use a come-hither motion toward his navel. That will massage his prostate. Continue giving him a blow job while also doing this, and you should produce the mind blowing orgasm you're looking for.



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Registered: 05-11-2007
Fri, 07-20-2007 - 8:25am

I answered this on the 'Make Him Moan' board. Quick input though, there are a lot of guys just can't orgasm from that. My guy probably could if I could do it for an hour but so far my jaw isn't that strong lol and I KNOW I am good at what I do. Of course a quickie with him last at least a half hour!

He does enjoy what I do though! I would say to ask your man to tell you while you are giving him the bj what feels best or just what he wants you to do again. He knows better than anyone what is going to work! Good luck!