am I being un fair
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am I being un fair
| Wed, 11-10-2004 - 1:52pm |
Ok so in lou of my previouse posts Sex hurts how ever I still have a very strong sex drive I just dont like being penitrated I can understand my hubbie being afraid of hurting me but since Ive never perticularly got off on the actual Intercourse part of sex I think he should be willing to acomidate me at least once or twice a week in other areas since Im willing to help him pain or no pain at any pont of time. But he is just down wright hurtfull he resorts to calling me lazy telling me I dont know what its like to get up and work for a liveing Hello we have a twwo year old and a seven month old Im not just mom IM overtime mom. Ive tryed explaning to him what would pease me how he could bring me to orgasam with out having to tuch tender areas but he just refuses to get it Im tiered horny and really grumpy and dont know what to do flying solo just dosent help.

I guess that you just have to keep trying with him. Ask him to help you reach an orgasm and THEN give him one. Perhaps the carrot on a stick approach will work better? I don't mean play games with him though.
Does he understand what has been happening with the surgery and the adhesions? Perhaps he is frustrated from the problems during sex but doesn't understand enough about your medical problems? I must admit that his attitude is really terrible for someone that has been kept in the loop about all this. Does he go to the Doctor's appointments with you? Although he would probably find it rather embarrassing, your sex life might be something to discuss with the Doctor at one of the appointments. Maybe having someone in a position of authority spell it out to him would help him come to grips with it all?