Am I doing something wrong?

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-10-2007
Am I doing something wrong?
3
Sat, 03-10-2007 - 2:40am
When I met my fiance he was a virgin yet, when we have sex he never ceases to amaze me with the things he can do. I feel like I'm doing something wrong. He always gets off and always begs for sex but I feel like I'm the one who's inexperienced...HELP!!
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-23-2004
Sat, 03-10-2007 - 7:54am

Why do you feel you're doing something wrong?


bounxh0a-1.gif picture by dillbyrd

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-12-2006
Sat, 03-10-2007 - 10:29am

I don't even understand your question? What or where is the problem? Is this some need of yours to be "superior" in your knowledge of sex?

Would you rather have some bumbling clod who doesn't know and doesn't care about giving his woman pleasure? Would that make you feel better about yourself?

As Tish said, just because you're "experienced" doesn't mean you have knowledge. Your former partners might have been selfish and uncaring lovers who had little or no knowledge about pleasing a woman.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-19-2006
Sat, 03-10-2007 - 12:32pm

It sounds to me like he is enjoying finding his sexual self. Being experienced isn't necessarily about how many times you have had sex, but more about the sex that you have experienced. Some people become experienced very quickly because of their own appetite, and it sounds like your fiance has a very healthy appetite.

First off, men are generally less inhibited than women when it comes to sex. While he is showing you, telling you, asking you he is into the pleasure, perhaps of both of you. Perhaps you are more inhibited, more shy, etc. Perhaps you have not experienced the same kind of pleasure. I think it's great that the two of you can become "experienced" together and learn to enjoy each other. If you would like to be more experienced, then learn more about your body and his body and ways to possibly share pleasure together. You can learn from websites (like the-clitoris.com), you can learn from many articles and boards here on iVillage, you can learn from books, you can learn from each other, the list goes on and on.

I've been sexually active for about 32 years and having intercourse for 28 years. I think that I am still developing sexually, and hope I never come to a standstill! I've been married for nearly 16 years, and we still "experience" new things together.