Am I Just Different???

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Registered: 02-15-2007
Am I Just Different???
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Mon, 03-24-2008 - 8:33am

Ok, I know that I have read that only like 20% of women can reach climax through intercourse alone, and the rest of us require at least some clitoral stimulation. Am I understanding that right? If so, then why do most men think that intercourse is all we need? Are they uninformed or is there something wrong with me. I have never been able to climax with just intercourse, but can easily with oral or manual stimulation. If the stats are right, then I am not alone. So where are these guys getting this misconception about women? Are that many women just faking it???

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Registered: 01-25-2008
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 9:38am

hi lani


i agree with you, there are many men out there, who are clueless - what a shame!


i'm quite lucky and i do come very often through IC alone and also

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Registered: 11-15-2006
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 4:37pm

I figure my orgasm is my responsibilty. I can orgasm through IC if my gspot is stimulated and it is my job to help him find that. As far clitoral stimulation he can watch how I do it and help me but ultimately, I have to be in the drivers seat for the most part.


Do you communicate differently with your guy with oral and manual than IC? Maybe that is why it is easier for you to climax that way.

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Registered: 02-15-2007
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 7:56pm
For me, it takes just the right amount of clitoral stimulation with no distractions. I have never gotten anything from the g-spot. I have felt close a couple of times with him during intercourse but I became distracted sensing that he was either about to climax or lose his erection due to the ED problem. Kind of hard to concentrate under those circumstances. My last bf was open to me using a vibrator during intercourse and I could climax that way, but I haven't tried that with this one yet. I've mentioned it a few times and he didn't seem too open to it. He said if I had the toy,
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Registered: 12-12-2006
Wed, 03-26-2008 - 10:48am

As everyone else said......it's up to YOU to ask for what you want and need.


If he's done, and he's either to tired or too lazy to take care of your needs........then how about you teach him "ladies first" which is the way most of us do it!

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Registered: 02-15-2007
Wed, 03-26-2008 - 11:30am
I think everyone is missing my point. I know that all women are different, as are all men (though they are typically less complicated) and they have to be informed about what we need. I have just always wondered why, if the majority of women CAN'T climax from intercourse alone, do most men think that they CAN and act surprised when it takes more?
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Registered: 08-01-2006
Wed, 03-26-2008 - 11:35am
Maybe it's because no one bothered to tell them differently. Or maybe they don't put two and two together and realize that clit stimulation is what got me over the top.

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Registered: 11-15-2006
Wed, 03-26-2008 - 12:09pm

why, if the majority of women CAN'T climax from intercourse alone, do most men think that they CAN and act surprised when it takes more?




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Registered: 12-12-2006
Wed, 03-26-2008 - 1:38pm

It's because most men, when they were boys, thought about it and talked about it among themselves.....most of them never had a teacher, father or older man to explain it to them.

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Registered: 09-20-2007
Thu, 03-27-2008 - 4:01am
I'm a pain slut, so a lot of times I don't need intercourse to reach orgasm. If Master flogs me long enough and my pain and pleasure intermingle well enough, then I can reach orgasm that way. I can also reach it through intercourse alone, though it takes me a lot longer than if I didn't get some kind of stimulation before. And I'm multiorgasmic, so once I start I can't stop until W/we stop completely. But I didn't get any of this until I was almost 40.

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