Am I just too small ???
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Am I just too small ???
| Sat, 08-14-2004 - 8:10pm |
Wow, I finally found a place that I can ask questions about this stuff, without being embarrassed. Okay, My husband and I don't have the best sex, because he is a bit rough, and just rushes everything. I know that I am built small, but is there such thing as too small? He tells me that I'm too tight, then that makes me even more uptight. I have only been with two men in my life. My ex-husband, and my husband. My ex mentioned that I was small once or twice, but it was never a big deal. Is there anything that I can do to stretch out my vagina a little? I feel ridiculous asking these questions, but I just don't know what to do. I have children, but had them via c-section, because I was too small for them to even go through the birth canal. My husband is not huge or anything, he just makes me feel like it's my fault that it's a tight fit. Maybe it is, but I certainly can't change my body structure. If I could get a mans perspective on this, I would really appreciate it.

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Unless you're uncomfortable with the idea, I wonder what advice HE could get from one of ivillage's message boards about this when asking in his own words. Just something I remember a few couples in the past had tried.
The trick that works for us when it comes to foreplay is candlelight, instrumental music with storms or even streams flowing as added sound effects, and body massages using either heavily scented massage oils or even edible sensual oils. The oils make it easier to slowly explore the body with sensual grips and squeezes and gropings as our hands move across the body, once you've tried it, you'll see.
From there we may move on to oral or we may actually not be able to wait for intercourse from being so aroused by then and we'll sort of tease each other with a couple of different positions before getting to the big bang! ;)
These two message boards have helped me greatly with extra ideas as well:
How to Have Hotter Sex
http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-rlimproveyou
Sexual Pleasure: Orgasms & More
http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-rlpleasurepr
Hope things keep getting better for you. When they do, share the success!
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Mr. Para
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How about starting the foreplay outside the bedroom? You know, things like cuddling on the sofa in front of the TV, making a promise just before he leaves for work for a night of passion backed up with a quick description of what you'd like to do to him later in the day, maybe just get some touchy, feelie stuff going on at odd times? A sexy txt message can be fun. Bring back the kissing, the passionate kissing that has real feeling to it instead of a quick peck.
As for in the bedroom? Well, again, kissing seems to get left behind a lot of the time. You could try the old back rub and move a bit lower for a slow tease. Kiss him all over and get him to do the same to you. I think that a lot of the time you forget about how exciting 'making out' can be and just jump straight into the main course, so to speak.
There's always sex toys, maybe a simple vibrator could be a lot of fun. Show him how to use it on you. The lingerie still has a place, even if he wants to remove it quickly. Perhaps you could stop him removing it so fast? Or even leave it on the entire time for something different? You could tease him when he's about to enter you. Just let him put the tip in and then hold him back. Let him rub the tip against you. Continue that for a few minutes before he finally does enter you.
As para has said, check out some of the other boards for other ideas.
Good luck, and have fun.
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