Well, I agree. In our 28 years together, my DH and I have never felt the need to indulge in porn or any activity that turns us away from one another sexually. And I don't think everyone believes it's okay. It only seems that way. I KNOW that my DH would be offended if I went to a male strip club with friends and then came home with the intent to use him for the night. Bill Maher, a porn affecionado extraordinare himself, admits that's exactly what's happening when men indulge. Believe me, he's NOT thinking of YOU when he's having sex with you after a night out with the boys!
>>To me there is no difference between Porn or erotica and a strip club.<<
YES there is. Porn and erotica are images in pictures or books, not a human being you are coming in contact with and interacting with. That brings a whole new level to the experience. If it didn't, men wouldn't go. It would be cheaper to stay at home and view porn.
"...No difference between porn or erotica and a strip club." You must have SOME imagination there, Jeep! LOL! Having a live woman rubbing her breasts and genitals all over you is WAY different than looking at a picture or video with your penis in your hand. WAY different. One is a private act with oneself and the other is definitely NOT.
My DH would have a cow if a male stripper was doing the same to me. It's just not the same at all.
Not true at all. Unless you live in Nevada. I used to go to strip bars. There was no more contact there than at home with my magazines or movies. If you go into the back room, and grind all over by a dancer, then we have a problem, and there we have a difference. Otherwise there is no difference. Live action, Oh, yeah, that is different then taped. Your right. I am so sorry. But, the arousal of a person from porn, erotica, strip clubs, or otherwise is no different. Get over it. If you don't like it, don't do it, but using sex as punishment is doing only one thing. Punishing your partner for being what they are. HUMAN. And, for your info Yarn, Strip clubs are places to go, and JUST BE YOURSELF, as much as they are to look at women. Big deal. I don't go because my SO was adult enough and cared enough to come with me, and once she did that, and she told me how she felt about it afterwards, I have only been a few times. If it were not for the fact that she went with me, and at the time seemed to enjoy herself, had fun, even tipped and had dances, I would have been a lot less likely to just take her attitude towards them as gold, and not go. Anyone who judges without knowledge is showing the ignorance they have, and ignorance is the greatest evil of all.
Strip clubs and lap dances are two seperate things, and issues intirely. I only know of one place in this country where it is legal for one to have the women walking around rubbing, touching, and grinding all over the patrons. NEVADA. Other than that, you actually have to go to the women, request it, and then get taken elsewhere. ie a back room for dances. Those are different, I agree, but just sitting there watching is no different than sitting at home watching, accept you have someone there to get your drinks, and bring you change, and company of the male gender to occupy your time. Grow up here people. Everyone seems to be taking things to literally, and not looking at the reality. Arousal, is arousal, regardless of what causes it. The real issue is the OP is using sex as punishment, and to me, that is very very wrong.
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YES there is. Porn and erotica are images in pictures or books, not a human being you are coming in contact with and interacting with. That brings a whole new level to the experience. If it didn't, men wouldn't go. It would be cheaper to stay at home and view porn.
Leticia
My DH would have a cow if a male stripper was doing the same to me. It's just not the same at all.
Leticia
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