Am I a tease?
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Am I a tease?
| Mon, 10-24-2005 - 8:35am |
I am 20 years old and was not very sexually experienced until my current BF. From the beginning we were able to talk about anything. For example, we have discussed how he has had a couple of sexual partners while I have had none. I am completely okay with that.
Also, we right away discussed how for him having a girl give him oral is a bigger deal than intercourse and he has to know her better and feel more comfortable with her for that to happen (which, btw, I thought was a little weird, but I'm not judging :-P, hehe). Anyway, for me sex is a very big deal and I am still a virgin. Anyway, my first night with my current guy, after having the talk about how I wasn't ready for sex and how he wasn't ready for oral, he ended up WANTING oral. Which I thought was weird, since he had just told me that it was such a big deal for him! I wonder if it was when he found out that I wouldn't be having sex with him, he decided to cave in because his desire was stronger than his morales or whatever you want to call it. Anyway, we have now been in a relationship for a few months and he doesn't pressure me to have sex, but I obviously know he wants it. He sometimes makes comments when we are doing sexual activities, not intercourse, such as, that he would love to make love to me at that moment repeatly, over and over again, etc. These comments get me really hot and sometimes cause me to tease him a little bit. Is that unfair of me? Is it bad to tease him and make him really want sex when he and I know hes not going to get it. He knows that I am not teasing him to make him think that we are going to have sex, I just do it to get him excited. But, is it unfair to get a guy really thinking and wanting sex when he's not going to get it?
Also, we right away discussed how for him having a girl give him oral is a bigger deal than intercourse and he has to know her better and feel more comfortable with her for that to happen (which, btw, I thought was a little weird, but I'm not judging :-P, hehe). Anyway, for me sex is a very big deal and I am still a virgin. Anyway, my first night with my current guy, after having the talk about how I wasn't ready for sex and how he wasn't ready for oral, he ended up WANTING oral. Which I thought was weird, since he had just told me that it was such a big deal for him! I wonder if it was when he found out that I wouldn't be having sex with him, he decided to cave in because his desire was stronger than his morales or whatever you want to call it. Anyway, we have now been in a relationship for a few months and he doesn't pressure me to have sex, but I obviously know he wants it. He sometimes makes comments when we are doing sexual activities, not intercourse, such as, that he would love to make love to me at that moment repeatly, over and over again, etc. These comments get me really hot and sometimes cause me to tease him a little bit. Is that unfair of me? Is it bad to tease him and make him really want sex when he and I know hes not going to get it. He knows that I am not teasing him to make him think that we are going to have sex, I just do it to get him excited. But, is it unfair to get a guy really thinking and wanting sex when he's not going to get it?

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Totally agree with you and Tish on this. It's one thing to get a guy "hot", but it's another to build false anticipation. I love to tease, but I only do it if I know I'm giving it eventually.
>>And I realised after posting this that I had a very angry emoticon, which wasn't my intention at all!!
Edited 10/27/2005 5:58 pm ET by xploziv1
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