Amount of cum, any meaning?

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Registered: 12-27-2004
Amount of cum, any meaning?
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Mon, 06-06-2005 - 8:57am

I have just become sexually active about a month ago. At first my partner seem to have a large amount of cum. Now it is a very small amount. I have heard that when a guy is having sex a often, that he doesn't cum so much and when he hasn't had sex in a while then he has a large amount of semen. I have just noticed that when he pulls out there is very little on me. Just curious.

Also, one other question... He mentioned during a conversation over the weekend about oral sex, referring me giving him oral sex, he said " I would never ask you to do that". I didn't question... Since he and I have only been together for about 2 months, I wasn't sure. Does he want me to do this or does he not think it is something a girl should have to do? And if I do, is he going to think bad of me?

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Mon, 06-06-2005 - 9:23am

Depending on how often a man ejaculates, there could be more or less.


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Registered: 05-27-2004
Mon, 06-06-2005 - 9:31am

The amount of ejaculation has nothing to do with anything. If a man ejaculates several times in an hour (which most men can't do!) then maybe it will be less. I already know where your mind is going, and no, he's not cheating on you. Are you aware that guys masturbate, (which has nothing at all to do with the amount of ejaculate) so that he is probably ejaculating on a regular basis, whether or not he's with you. Your first few times it was all new to you, and seemed like a lot. Now you're used to it, that's all it is.

My question to you is: Was he also a virgin? If not, why aren't you using condoms? Has he been tested and found negative for any and all STD's? Are you on some form of birth control?

If you want to know what he meant about you giving him oral sex, then you have to ask him. He said he would never ask you, that doesn't mean he doesn't want it, just that he wouldn't ask for it. Would he think you were a "bad girl" if he did it? Who knows what he might think? Again, that's something you need to discuss with him. If you can't talk with him about sex, safe sex, oral sex, etc., then you shouldn't be sexually active with him. If you feel you're mature enough to DO it, then you need to be mature enough to discuss it.

If a guy cares for you, and respects you, he would never think you were "bad" no matter what you do......if he's only in it for the sex, who knows what he would think, but in that case, why worry what he thinks? If he's only in it for the sex, he doesn't respect you anyway....

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Registered: 09-25-2004
Mon, 06-06-2005 - 11:18am
I read your reply to her, and I was wondering..How do they determine how much semen a man ejaculates? Do they wait until a man has ejaculated and then collect to measure? I've got this silly image of a man in a lab coat, waiting for a couple to finish having sex just to determine how much semen there is at time of ejaculation. And, does pre-cum count as part of ejaculation?
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Registered: 12-27-2004
Mon, 06-06-2005 - 11:27am

No he was not a virgin. Nor does he know that I was. I am 27 years old and yes this is all very new to me. We started with condoms, but he doesn't like to use them, of course, what man does. Although we have only had sex 3 times w/o protection, I have told him that we need to start using protection again! AND WE WILL or no sex. I am sticking with that. Because he has been with another woman within the last 3 weeks while we were on the "outs". That scares me and we should have always used protection! I brought up the conversation and he said "I pull out and you are on the pill". I thought about approaching him and telling him considering he has been with someone else now, that we MUST use protection! And yes I started BC immediately after he and I became sexually active. This whole deal scares me, I should have never been with him considering we were not in a realtionship. Right now we are not seeing each other exclusively or I should say I don't think he is........

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Mon, 06-06-2005 - 1:38pm
Stick to your guns, no glove, no love.

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Registered: 05-27-2004
Mon, 06-06-2005 - 4:33pm

You're right, it should be relationship first, THEN sex. Right now, it sounds like he's just using you for sex....and are you aware that the largest segment of the population that is contracting HIV is young women? If he's having sex with other women without a condom, which he probably is if he's not using one with you......then you need to stick to your guns, and tell him if the other women don't care, you DO, and you're not going to allow him to give you a disease.

If he doesn't like it, he doesn't sound like much of a loss!

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Registered: 09-11-2004
Mon, 06-06-2005 - 11:09pm

Jennie,

Of course, the man in the lab coat is standing right next to the couple (doing it on the white paper covered exam table) with two teaspoons, ready to collect the specimen just as the man pulls out.

Pre-cum is pre-cum and not cum, so it doesn't count. That would be like counting the pre-season as part of a team's season record.

krn :o)

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Registered: 09-25-2004
Tue, 06-07-2005 - 9:39am
I might not be the world's smartest woman, but there are times that I get the funniest images in my head when someone says just about anything. At the whole thing with the semen and amount of, I just pictured this nerdy looking fella in a white lab coat, tapping his foot and waiting. It was really a funny image in my head. Sorry to sound so...ditzy! *LOL*