anal advice??

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Registered: 07-23-2006
anal advice??
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Sun, 08-06-2006 - 8:53pm

so i have a question about anal sex...

me n my boyfriend were intimate the other night n i really enjoyed when he played around that area we were going to "attempt" anal sex but didnt have a condom so its on the back burner till next time, i just really want to no what to expect and if anyone has any advice or what not on it, i just want to no what to expect.

thank you

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Registered: 04-23-2004
In reply to: c1h2e3l4l5e
Sun, 08-06-2006 - 9:06pm
Dh and I engage in anal sex and we both enjoy it,

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Registered: 12-24-2005
In reply to: c1h2e3l4l5e
Sun, 08-06-2006 - 9:37pm

'Playing around' in that area without penetration is a lot different than anal intercourse, and not necessarily an indication that you'll enjoy it once you try it.

My only advice is to take it SLOW and be very careful, since it's not an area that was created for the purpose of intercourse (not spoken from a 'creationist' perspective, just a practical one).

Tish's advice was excellent and I'd suggest following it. Patience is key.

Good luck.

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Registered: 01-04-2006
In reply to: c1h2e3l4l5e
Sun, 08-06-2006 - 10:21pm

You need to be 100% relaxed, so make sure you absolutely want to do it and have him play around back there first. Take a deep breath and bear down when he inserts his penis, as this loosens things up and makes insertion easier. Have him go slooooooow and take his cues from you about when to stop inserting his penis, when to push a little farther, what pace feels comfortable, if/when you want him to push faster or harder, if you want him to stop. Make 100% certain that he is willing to go along with your cues and isn't going to jump into it and do whatever feels good to him. The first few, or at least the first, anal sessions are all about what feels right to *you*, not him. If he can't respect that, don't do it.

Use lots of lube, ideally use your finger to apply it internally, and lube his penis. Don't use Anal Eaze or other numbing lubes because you want to know, you need to know, if there is any pain. Anal sex can damage the tissue in there--it wasn't designed for sex. So if it hurts, stop immediately and use something smaller, like an anal plug for beginners, for anal play sessions until you feel comfortable trying again.

That's all I can think of. Most importantly, have fun!

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Registered: 07-23-2006
In reply to: c1h2e3l4l5e
Mon, 08-07-2006 - 1:14am

thnx everyone for your advice,

one thing though is i do want to try it and we have had "penetration" on a couple of instances with his fingers so we are not jumping into ne thing crazy

and i trust him completely to listen to me n respect what i want, we have been together for two years so theres alot of trust there.

but ive read everything everyone has said, and i do feel way more comfortable now, thnx