Anal one way good, other horrifying....?

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Anal one way good, other horrifying....?
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Thu, 09-29-2005 - 1:56am

I tried anal once years ago and it did not go well. I tried it again recently, and it went fine. No pain whatsoever, even with first entry. Didnt even have to be too slow or anything.

So the other day, decided to try it differently. Laying on my back this time. So anyways, first entry, slow but painful. So I told him to just sit there a minute, still hurting though. He pushed in a bit more and stopped again....and I said to just stop and pull out. He did so, slowly and all that, but I got the most horrible pain that stayed with me for several minutes. Was like a very sharp pinching feeling. It was traumatizing, this is exactly what happened the first time years ago. It there just something with the way my body is or something? Usually im either doggy or standing and bent over, and its fine, not even a tiny bit of pain. I know its not an issue with not being relaxed or anything. Whats up with this? Im now afraid to try any other position at all. Which I suppose is fine, but more than them two would be nice.

TIA for any advice or ideas.

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Thu, 09-29-2005 - 9:15am

Are you consistently using plenty of lube before allowing him to penetrate? IF not, then that would explain the pinching sensation you experienced. If you DO use lube consistently, then maybe his penetration sparked some cramping that time.

Does he manually stimulate you before attempting penetration? Do you spend plenty of time in foreplay first? All those things are important to preventing pain. But for some of us, anal just isn't a big turnon so the body doesn't respond adequately to that stimulation, so it can be painful instead of pleasurable.

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Thu, 09-29-2005 - 11:51am

Ok, My personal expereince is opposite of yours. I could do anal on my back with no trouble at all, but had alot of pain when trying to do it doggy style. Only recently have I been able to figure out how to do it right so as to make it feel good and enjoy it doggie style as well.

Similar to intercourse Anal sex isnt going to feel the same every time or in every position, The more the foreplay ussually the better the intercourse and better not to mention easier the anal sex is as well.

You should try it again as soon as you feel comfortable, remember to relax dont let one bad experience ruin it forever. Remember to use LOTS of lube and enjoy lots of foreplay including anal play before hand.

you have a bit more control in this position so you guide him in. Grab his hips and move him in a way you are comfortable with for awhile.

Lube, Go Slow, and if al else fails try a different position. There are more to choose from than missionary and doggie.

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Fri, 09-30-2005 - 10:38pm
My F/W had the same problem with her on her back. We never did figure out why she couldn't do it that way but loved it from behind. The only way we could do anal facing each other was with her on top sitting up.
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Fri, 09-30-2005 - 11:45pm
I've been thinking about trying on top in whichever way...but im afraid to now. And if im afraid...then it probably wont work. I think im going to end up with from behind forever more, or at least for a long enough time that I forget that pain. It was sure aweful. I never even had one smidge of pain my first try...from behind though.
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Sun, 10-02-2005 - 10:04pm
I've done anal with my bf a few times. Sometimes it works, other times it hurts! I use a vibrator on my vagina, to help take some of the pain off, which really works. My bf plays with my ass alot first, using his fingers, also using a butt plug. You really have to be in the mood, and relaxed. There is lube out there thats is ment for anal sex, so if i were you i would go to a sex shop and explore the type's of lube's out there. Also trying the spooning position is probably a better way to do it, because from behind the guy tends to thrust, and in the spooning position there is more control. Well good luck. And just because it doesn't always work, doesn't mean it will never happen. And doing anal sex more and more often, loosens you up more, so it becomes more easy.