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| Tue, 05-02-2006 - 10:42am |
What are your thoughts on anal?? does it hurt your, or do you enjoy it? what are the best positions and tricks for anal sex? and can you train an anus to accept a penis more and not get that unbearable feeling like you want it out?? I really want to have anal sex with my husband, but when we tried it, it was unbearable for me, and im wondering if anybody feels comfortable with it, and in time will it feel more natural????

Very few people are ambivalent about anal sex. Most people either love it or hate it.
I've tried it a few times, and I don't like it. I might try to tolerate it occasionally if my SO was that into it, but thankfully, he's not.
The trick is to take it SLOW, and to be totally relaxed. Most people start with one finger, then two, and work up to the penis being inserted. It hurts most on entry, and if you're very relaxed, then it stops hurting. Use LOTS of lube, and if it hurts too much, then you have to stop.
It can also be very messy.....and you have to be VERY careful to wash everything thoroughly afterwards...if any of the bacteria from your colon get into your vagina, you can get a NASTY infection.
I enjoy anal, Dh and I have engaged in anal sex for a long time
We love anal sex, and look forward to it as a special treat when I am on my period. It has to be something that you both want to accomplish, and not a desire of only one or the other.
The first time we tried it, it was terrible, it hurt something awful and I screamed so loud, I thought he was gonna die, worried so much that he had hurt me. Because of that, I could hardly get him to ever try again, but I knew that he wanted to and I wanted to keep trying. The next time was not great either, we used much more lubricant, KY jelly, but it just didn't feel comfortable, and so we quit again.
I am a very determined person, and I tell you all of this to encourage you, if at first you don't succeed, keep trying, if you want to. I finally took it upon myself to figure out why it hurt so badly, because it just did not make sense. This is when I did a little research and found out what I already knew but had forgotten, that every human body is put together just a little differently, and it might be that my anus and colon were not straight, like when he tried to enter me, it wasn't straight ahead that he needed to be going, but it might be a little "uphill", or a little "downhill", SO, I got a long vibrator that we happened to have on hand and had a little "discovery afternoon" all my myself. I got on my knees, in the position we had tried to use, and inserted the vibrator the same way he tried to enter men and realized that I go "uphill" !!!
That night, we tried again, with lots and lots of foreplay, a very hard penis, and lots and lots of lubricant, this wonderful stuff I found online, can't remember the name right at this moment, but I'll go look if you want to know about it, it is wonderful, and then I had him start, but stop and wait, and let me guide him in as it felt comfortable to me, until I was completely relaxed, and little by little, I took him in, and it was fabulous. You just have to be patient with each other and wait for your body to be ready for more, and when it is, it is a fabulous feeling for both you and for him. He tells me the sensation is like no other.
Like I said at the beginning, we have worked together to make it work, and it is now our reward for still putting up with my period. I used to dread having to tell him that it had started, but now, I tell him and sometime during the second day (he gives me the first day to feel bad) he whispers in my ear "I cannot wait to have that a$$ tonight". Oh my, I can hardly wait for the night.
You know, making love can start in the morning when you wake up, don't wait until that night to start getting your partner interested. Set it up early and all during the day.
Ask more if you want to, I'll answer anything.