anal questions and fears

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anal questions and fears
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Thu, 10-04-2007 - 11:17pm
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Registered: 03-31-2007
Fri, 10-05-2007 - 9:04am

Welcome to the board leenygirl.

I don't think your fears are warranted. While there can be some mess involved, loss of bowel control isn't likely as it doesn't gather in the anus. You can clean yourself out prior to engaging in anal sex by using a water enema (replace the enema solution with water -- you will only need to fill the small container about half full). This isn't so much a necessity as it is an act that will help to put your mind at ease.

The causes of incontinence vary widely. While regular anal sex may increase your chances of this problem later in life, practicing regular kegel exercise will help to avoid the problem with or without anal sex being a factor.

Having anal sex does have a couple of risk. One is in the spread of bacteria, the other is in damage being done to the internal tissue. Using a condom during anal sex decreases nearly all likelihood of your partner getting an infection from the bacteria, and proper hygiene (which includes cleaning prior to going from anus to vagina) nearly eliminates all possibility of spreading bacteria for you. Anal sex SHOULD NOT be painful. Pain is your body's way of telling you something is wrong, so if you're feeling pain, you need to stop. When having anal sex, it's very important for your partner to let you be the guide, to go slowly, and to listen to your prompts.

Here are some articles that you might also find helpful:

5 Myths of Anal Sex Uncovered
http://love.ivillage.com/lnssex/sextaboos/0,,jdgc,00.html

Adventurous Intimacy: 6 Do's and Don'ts of Anal Sex
http://love.ivillage.com/lnssex/sextaboos/0,,b31g,00.html

I want to try anal sex
http://magazines.ivillage.com/cosmopolitan/experts/carnal/qas/0,,638358_602026,00.html

Second Opinions: Anal Sex
What you should know
http://health.ivillage.com/sexualhealth/0,,7558qs10,00.html

Remember to take things slowly and be comfortable about what you're doing. Anal sex can be very pleasurable, but does require a different kind of caution than vaginal intercourse.













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Registered: 08-16-2006
Fri, 10-05-2007 - 1:19pm

You can take or leave

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Fri, 10-05-2007 - 1:34pm

Hello..First in order for you to get anal penetration with his penis, you need to slowly build yourself up, what I mean is start with a finger then as you get used to that you can start 2 fingers until you get used to having something "in there"..eventually when you are ready and totally relaxed with lots of lube you can slowly try having him insert his penis, but if it starts to hurt then back off and wait, you can keep trying until you are able to insert it to a point where its comfortable. The key is Relaxation and lots of lube..Make sure he wears a condom. Its very enjoyable when its done right, listen to your body if it hurts stop, lets face it, the anus is used to things coming out not going in, so the mucsles automatically contract (tighten) when you try and insert something. Dont feel you need to have anal penetration because he wants you to..this sex act involves lots of trust on your part as he can hurt you if he is not carefull and goes to fast..so make sure you are ready and only do it if you want to...when done properly it can feel amazing...Good Luck

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Registered: 07-17-2007
Fri, 10-05-2007 - 5:55pm

Well!!!


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Solve et Coagu

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Fri, 10-05-2007 - 6:17pm

This is just a small excerpt form one of those studies that seem to get misquoted or misconstrued


Overall, regardless of the patient's sexual orientation or gender, the researchers found that 88 percent of the tumors were positive for HPV DNA. Of these, 73 percent tested positive for a strain called HPV-16, and 7 percent contained a strain called HPV-18. Both strains of HPV are implicated in cervical-cancer development as well. The researchers also found significantly higher amounts of circulating HPV antibodies in the blood of anal-cancer patients. Approximately 40 percent of the women and 50 percent of the men with anal cancer tested positive for HPV antibodies as compared to about 15 percent of the men and women in the control group. Since the blood test can only detect HPV antibodies in a subset of those who are exposed to the virus, the overall HPV exposure among the control group was probably much higher, Daling cautions.

One of the most surprising findings, Daling said, was that smoking appears to play a significant role in anal-cancer development that's independent of other behavioral risk factors, such as sexual activity. More than half of the anal-cancer patients studied were current smokers at the time of diagnosis, as compared to a smoking rate of about 23 percent among the controls


Here is the link to the study so you can make your own decisions based on fact


http://www.aphroditewomenshealth.com/news/20040612005751_health_news.shtml


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Solve et Coagu

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Registered: 07-17-2007
Fri, 10-05-2007 - 6:31pm
Published: July 28, 2004

Dear TeenHealthFX,


My friend is having sex with a lot of guys and I think that is wrong. She told me that one of the boys did her from the back. Is it true that people can get cancer from doing that and also, is true that it's harmful?


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Solve et Coagu

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Fri, 10-05-2007 - 8:21pm

I think that you are seeing you will get varying information on anal sex, and that is in a large part because it is still considered taboo by many. You have to decide for yourself what you will/will not do, and the risks that you are willing to take. Neither the act of anal sex nor the risk factors are new. Anal sex is documented as far back as the Roman times (and most likely more), and in many cultures, it is accepted as common practice.

The other information I am going to add has to do with preparation for anal sex. Many people choose to use fingers or toys prior to having anal sex -- some have found that increasing the size of the object over a period of time allows your body to adjust. This process also allows you to relax and become familiar with the different sensations that you will experience.

Other people find that having already had at least one orgasm reduces some of the anxiety associated with a first time anal sex experience. Using lots of lubrication and being highly aroused also help with you being receptive to anal sex. Some also say that if you push outward as he pushes inward that your muscles will not be able to constrict, thus reducing the chances of pain.

The point that I am really trying to make here is that it works differently for different people. Use your own body as a guide to what does and doesn't work for you. If you're not experiencing pain, proceed -- if you are, stop. You can use the various tips as different approaches if you decide to continue experimenting.













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