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| Tue, 02-27-2007 - 7:25am |
I don't understand why anybody could like anal sex. Is it more of a man thing? There's a guy I know that I was intimate with and he would try to coax me into having anal but I wouldn't. It seems too gross and not very intimate. I like to look into the man's eyes when having sex and not have my back to him. I know that homosexuals do this but why would hetrosexuals want to? I've heard that it can be painful for the woman.
For all of you that have experienced it, what are your thoughts on it? If you haven't done it, would you?
For all of you that have experienced it, what are your thoughts on it? If you haven't done it, would you?

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I don't understand it and don't want to either. No I've never done it and never intend to. Frankly, if that's what he needs for sexual happiness, fullfillment or some validation of...I don"t know whatever it means to a man who would want that, is not the life partner for me. Welcome him to leave and find his happiness ( an peace for you )!
Stick to your principles and don't give in ( unless you are currious and wanting to try, not because someone else does ). You are not the only one who feels this way.
And, by the way, 16 1/2 years of marriage to the same man, still a "no can do" and it doesn't mean that I don't love him, trust him, or don't feel deep, connected and true intimacy with him either. So don't think that it's some ultimate test that prooves of your love, trust, and faith in him.
Edited 2/27/2007 12:45 pm ET by danidi
Anal sex is not just a "man thing", as a woman I love anal sex (I'm not the only woman who likes it)
Anal sex is a very personal topic and can be very intimate. As much as I enjoy anal play, as a woman, my husband could do without... so it's not *just a guy thing*. I'm the one who approached him about it. He isn't grossed out and he does enjoy the fact that I get so turned on and can climax almost instantly upon penetration.
Now with that said, we have anal play with toys and fingers. He has never attempted to have anal sex. And I won't push the issue until he says he wants to. I have had anal sex with other partners.
I think if you speak to most women who's had respectable anal play/sex, they will tell you that it felt great. Some might say it hurt... and it does if you don't use enough lube or if you are too tense.
If you are clean and follow some basic guidelines, it doesn't have to be gross. Experimenting in the bath was what did it for me! :)
Katie
LOL I had to laugh Tish that we replied the same thing at the same time!
Katie
Hi frustrated. My thoughts on anal sex were very much like yours until recently. I was convinced it was dirty, unpleasant, unnatural, and something I would NEVER do. I'm the typical prude, or I was until the last few months. Not sure what changed in me, but maybe its that I've been married to my husband for 17 years and am just now comfortable in my own skin and with him. We recently tried anal sex and it was nothing like I expected. Go to the taboo boards and there are a couple of posts on the subject. One of the posts is from me, I came here and found these boards for the sole reason of trying to understand why my experience with it was so differrent than what I thought would happen.
My personal opinion is that it is something to be done with the man you truly trust and love. It was amazing for me, absolutely no pain. I am not into pain and if it had hurt for a split second I would have stopped. I've never felt anything so incredible before! Keep in mind this is coming from the miss goodie two shoes poster child of a lifetime! I've only been with one man in my entire life and for me that is the right path. It might not be ok with everyone. I believe that if I did not have all the years invested in this relationship, I would not have tried anal sex. It is very personal, and very intimate. Anyway, if you dont want to do it now, dont. I dont know how old you are, but wait until a time in your life where you are open to it, and ready for a new experience. Dont waste the act with someone who isnt everything you want and need.
I'm glad I happened upon this "anal sex" thread. Most of the other threads on the subject had me never wanting to try it. I've often heard and read of how painful it is for the woman and only pleasureable for the man. I'm glad to read many of your positivie experiences. Especially, the point on having great orgasims that way.
I'v been with my guy for about a year and the subject comes up once in a while. He would never pressure me into anal, but lately I've really been thinking more and more about it. I have such intense pleasure, enjoyment and love just being with him and sex adds so much more!
I've heard that when you have anal sex that it causes the woman to become constipated for several days. Any truth to that? Also, how far does his penis go in? Excuse the blunt questions, I just don't know much about anal sex and the truths and myth. Is there anything special the female has to do, such as pushing out while he inserts? Lastly, since you can't have vaginal sex after anal, do you ladies usually do anal last? Not sure if giving a bj after anal is ok either. Seems kind of dirty and unhealthy to me.
Thanks for your help!
Edited 2/27/2007 6:56 pm ET by frustrated_12
>> I've heard that when you have anal sex that it causes the woman to become constipated for several days. <<
Well it's the opposite in my case. If you use lube, there shouldn't be any reason to be constipated althought I have to say that having a bm after anal play is *weird*... LOL.. I can't quite describe it, I tried to with dh earlier... just couldn't put sense into words.
>> Also, how far does his penis go in? <<
As far as you allow him! My vibe is 7" and I take half of it comfortably (I could probably do more but i've already climax upon penetration... so I'm mostly looking for sensual play and no hardcore banging...kwim?)
>> Is there anything special the female has to do, such as pushing out while he inserts? <<
They say it makes it easier however I've never had to. If you are relaxed and prepared with tons of foreplay, you might not have to. If you are having trouble with relaxing, there are tons of toys you can use to prepare/stretch/relax... I personally would start with *playing around*... Fingers are good too.
>> Lastly, since you can't have vaginal sex after anal, do you ladies usually do anal last? Not sure if giving a bj after anal is ok either. Seems kind of dirty and unhealthy to me. <<
You can have vaginal sex after, it's just a matter of being smart about it. If you want to do anal first, you can use a condom... and then remove before going vaginally (or use a new condom) Or he can quickly wash in between. BJ after anal is done... depends if you are confortable. Personally, I'm not! When you consider the amount of bacteria... Norwalk Virus among many others, is spread through contaminated stools so imagine what other viruses, bacterias,... Ew! However, again, if you use a condom... or wash in between... possibilities are endless!
HTH
Katie
I've heard that when you have anal sex that it causes the woman to become constipated for several days. Any truth to that?
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