Anal Sex?

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Registered: 12-22-2004
Anal Sex?
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Sat, 06-04-2005 - 2:13am
I had anal sex with my fiance a while back. I was really drunk ( i never would have agreed otherwise ) and i remember it hurting very very badly.
He on the other hand enjoyed himself and would like to do it again. I don't want to have to chug a six pack in order for him to do it:) . Is there any way to make it less painful? Is it always painful? I know some women enjoy it and was just wondering if anyone had any pointers.
Thanks
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Registered: 04-23-2004
In reply to: kunnarree
Sat, 06-04-2005 - 8:05am

I have never had pain with anal, but it was something I wanted to do.


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Registered: 12-08-2004
In reply to: kunnarree
Wed, 06-22-2005 - 12:05pm

My fiance had been asking me for a while, I started by looking on the internet after hearing him moaning like crazy about wanting to try anal. My search helped alot, it meant that I was more aware of what I may or may not get, I looked round message boards like this though never posted anything. We took it at my pace over a period of time, working up to the penetration gradulally, in the exact same way we did when I lost my virginity.

Taking it at my pace meant that if I was not enjoying it that was the end. He would ask a couple of times a night to get me to try anal sex. It did hurt the first time because we went to fast. I gave into his pressure in order for him to try something that I wanted to try, and also to try a new experince.

It's a preference that is upto you. If the very thought of it turnd you off then it is definatly not for you. If you decide no then it is final, end of and that is also seen in the eyes of the law. But you could decide to try it. Just ensure that you use lots of Lube and also take in the advice of chezypoofs28.

Good Luck

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Registered: 06-25-2005
In reply to: kunnarree
Sat, 06-25-2005 - 9:27pm

Hi

Anal sex don't have to hurt, go to a sex store in your area and get Anal Ease. Have your man put some on the outside of your hole let it sit for 2-3 min( this will make it numb) while you wait for it to set in you can proform oral with him. when the 2-3 min is up or when you think it is up have him SLOWLY put the head in first ( to make yourself comfortable place a pillow under your breast and rest your chin on it that is what I do) once you feel comfortable with the head in have him slowly inch his way in. Trust me it is Great, I love anal sex ONLY if I have enough anal Ease or you can try KYjelly. I believe you can go to kyjelly .com and get a free sample, Im not sure of the web address. Good luck

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Registered: 04-23-2004
In reply to: kunnarree
Sat, 06-25-2005 - 9:36pm
Analease

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Registered: 03-23-2005
In reply to: kunnarree
Sat, 06-25-2005 - 10:37pm
PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE do not use anal ease. Anal sex should not be painful. It may be uncomfortable at first. In my experience I have some "pressure", which I would describe as uncomfortable while my DH is inserting his penis into by anus,but once he gets past the sphincter muscle it begins to be enjoyable. If it hurts, your not ready. If he attempts to push past the sphincter muscle he could tear it. If that happens you may be faced with loss of bowel control which may need to be corrected with surgery. Anal sex must be done slowly and carefully. Know the facts and risks regarding anal sex so that you can make an educated decision as to whether you want to engage in this type of sex. Google Anal Sphinter Reconstruction if someone out there thinks that I'm being dramatic.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: kunnarree
Sun, 06-26-2005 - 12:32pm
Geeze honey, I'd hate to see the damage you're potentially doing to your rectum!