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| Thu, 07-22-2004 - 6:04am |
hi every one
i have a really big problem and im hoping ya'll can help me. my boyfriend and i have recently started having anal sex but i all ways worry i might have a little mess up there and i dont want him seeing this on his penis, i have told him to wear a condom i wont do it any other way and he always looses his erection. he allways goes on about how much he wants in there and then he looses his erection, can you please help me solve these problems
it would be greatly appreciated
i have a really big problem and im hoping ya'll can help me. my boyfriend and i have recently started having anal sex but i all ways worry i might have a little mess up there and i dont want him seeing this on his penis, i have told him to wear a condom i wont do it any other way and he always looses his erection. he allways goes on about how much he wants in there and then he looses his erection, can you please help me solve these problems
it would be greatly appreciated

As for the "sightings", let's face facts... it's bound to happen every once in a while. My husband and I enjoy this type of play and it does happen occasionally, though I usually know when it's not a good time to try it. If you're uptight about it, this may not be the thing for y'all to be doing. JMO.
I DO think that a wearing condom is recommended for his own benefit since it will protect him from coming in contact with bacteria. Use anal as part of foreplay for part of your session and then switch to something else.
You definitely need to stop worrying about getting feces on his penis though...if he cared, he wouldn't be engaging in anal at all.
I've never done it so i can't really offer any advice, but I did hear that tip on a different board!
So the Dr told me. Before sex, or in the time you know it will happen.
Go to the bathroom. Then if you think there is nothing there fine but to make sure it isn't there for the mess, take it out your self. I said "what??" He said yes, if his fingers and penis is ok there then you stick your fingr in and get it out before. It is all laying in a spot that there isnt much there. What happens, is it if there is small amout that is what is wanting to come out. The rest is in your intestinse, so the bit that is in the area they feel is ready to come out anyway. You know they can feel it in side of you when they are in your vagina. they can feel a hard lump of it if there is some in there. Now if it is soft and sqooshy , you may just tell him.. look I have a stomach ache and just sex is good to advoid it.
So pull it out or just move it aroud if it is hard, so when you push it come out. So clean it out before sex. He said the xx rated movie people take stuff to clean them self out days before and dont eat well anything solid then have enamas. We cant go that far.
But to remember any fingers or things in there will smell. So you might want to put something like a baby oil or protect it with gloves or finger cots. If not to use anything for the smell,for it dont stay on you you dont want him to kiss you from head to toe and lick your finegers and smell it.. wash well with soap,, and put a lotion on before and after.Then wash them again. Keep a damp towel my the bed in case.
Men like to have women play with there butts too. So one day don't be suprised. It isnt that there gay. They have hot little nerves like us.
bj
But let's face it, unless you've been fasting, there will always be some "lumps" moving through BOTH your systems, so it's not something you can avoid.
We don't indulge in anal ourselves, because neither of us find it appealing, in the least, but for those who do, I think that expecting your partner to do an enema every time, beforehand, is asking a little much, IMO. Possibly doing several enemas a week would never be recommended by a dr. either.
There will ALWAYS be a little poop in there somewhere, no matter what you do so each persona should reconcile themselves to that fact or don't do it.
However, in lubricated anal sex (is there any other way?) the mess is usually a minimum if ordinary sensible precautions are taken. The bacteria flora, however, the unseen little buggers (excuse the pun), are everywhere so mattress protection and clean-up are necessary.
And viagra works wonderfully for erections, with or without a condom.