Anal Sex

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Registered: 02-12-2008
Anal Sex
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Tue, 02-12-2008 - 2:00am
Ok,
my boyfriend loves anal sex. I on the other hand have never done this before. But I really want to. I need adivce on what to do, what happens and all that
PLEASE HELP!
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MISS DREWBIE
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MISS DREWBIE
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Registered: 03-31-2007
In reply to: missdrewbie
Tue, 02-12-2008 - 8:47am

Welcome to the board, Miss Drewbie.

The basics of anal sex are to be relaxed, stop if there's pain, don't use numbing agents, and use plenty of lube. You need to be in control of the act -- he needs to listen to your cues as far as how deep to penetrate and when to stop. Some people prefer to prepare themselves for anal sex by using fingers and toys to get accustomed to things being inserted there, but I never have. I find that if I'm highly aroused, and there's plenty of lube, there's no problem with insertion. A good position to try for the first time is in a spooning position.

Here are some articles that go into more detail:

5 Myths of Anal Sex Uncovered
http://love.ivillage.com/lnssex/sextaboos/0,,jdgc,00.html

Adventurous Intimacy: 6 Do's and Don'ts of Anal Sex
http://love.ivillage.com/lnssex/sextaboos/0,,b31g,00.html

I want to try anal sex
http://magazines.ivillage.com/cosmopolitan/experts/carnal/qas/0,,638358_602026,00.html

Second Opinions: Anal Sex
What you should know
http://health.ivillage.com/sexualhealth/0,,7558qs10,00.html

Anal sex can be a highly satisfying experience for both of you if done with care. If you feel pain, STOP -- it's your body's way of letting you know something isn't right.

Relax, have fun, and let us know how you enjoy the experience.



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Registered: 12-12-2007
In reply to: missdrewbie
Tue, 02-12-2008 - 11:27am
Also try and relax...and make sure your husband/boyfriend/SO takes things very slow!

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Registered: 12-27-2007
In reply to: missdrewbie
Tue, 02-12-2008 - 1:38pm

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Registered: 01-28-2008
In reply to: missdrewbie
Tue, 02-12-2008 - 2:01pm

I think instead of jumping right into anal sex, for a few sessions just go with fingering. Maybe do a 69 with you on top and ask him to get the lube and use one finger. If you can take his finger with no issues, and if you like it, and I am sure you will. You can finish him off in that session normally.


Maybe next time you start off with one finger again, but if you want to go further, ask him to use two fingers. You always keeping him informed of your status. As long as you are enjoying it. You are training your own mind to like it. To realize that when it is good, it's great. And you are also able to work your way up to his penis. If you have some small vibes/dildo then you might want to try those and maybe work your way up to bigger ones. When you are confident that you are having no issues and you feel you can accept his penis. Then you start that session like usual with alot of fingering. It has the double benefit loosening you up, and also spreading the lube all around inside and out. At this point you can try position to have anal sex with him. My wife, prefers on her side with me behind. (sort of spooning)