Anal sex

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Registered: 01-21-2007
Anal sex
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Tue, 01-15-2008 - 11:27pm
My boyfriend wants to have anal sex but I'm a bit hesitant about it. I'm afraid that it'll really hurt and I won't enjoy it. What is a good way to prepare for this? and what were your experiences like when you tried it?
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Registered: 12-12-2006
In reply to: md20
Wed, 01-16-2008 - 8:26am

If you don't want to do it, then don't!

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Registered: 03-31-2007
In reply to: md20
Wed, 01-16-2008 - 10:40am

Welcome to the board, md20.

Anal sex shouldn't be painful if done properly. If you do decide to give this a try, your BF has to let you be in charge of penetration .... he needs to listen to what you're saying to him, and he has to be able to go about this slowly. If there is pain, it's your body's way of telling you something is wrong -- and you should stop. Also, don't use numbing agents -- since that will mask any pain you might feel.

Here are some great articles on anal sex:

Adventurous Intimacy: 6 Do's and Don'ts of Anal Sex
http://love.ivillage.com/lnssex/sextaboos/0,,b31g,00.html

I want to try anal sex
http://magazines.ivillage.com/cosmopolitan/experts/carnal/qas/0,,638358_602026,00.html

5 Myths of Anal Sex Uncovered
http://love.ivillage.com/lnssex/sextaboos/0,,jdgc,00.html

Second Opinions: Anal Sex
http://health.ivillage.com/sexualhealth/0,,7558qs10,00.html

It's very helpful if you're highly aroused when you do try anal sex, and it's very important that you use a lot of lubrication. Some people also take time to prepare for anal sex prior to penetration (for weeks). Using fingers or toys designed for anal penetration, you can slowly build up to being able to accept larger items, and it can give you an idea of what to expect when you do decide to try anal sex. The more relaxed you are when you try, the more enjoyable the experience will be. Hope the articles are helpful, but if you have more questions, feel free to ask.




Edited 1/16/2008 2:12 pm ET by cl-misty_mae




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Registered: 12-27-2007
In reply to: md20
Wed, 01-16-2008 - 12:50pm

Hey Misty


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Registered: 03-31-2007
In reply to: md20
Wed, 01-16-2008 - 2:17pm

Thanks for the heads up, all fixed!





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Registered: 01-21-2007
In reply to: md20
Thu, 01-17-2008 - 10:12pm
Thanks everyone! It's good to at least get some information and not think the worst. I'm not against the idea of anal. I just didn't want to go about it in a rushed, painful way. So here's another question...does anal feel good and is there a large amount of women that orgasm from it or just a rare few?
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Registered: 03-31-2007
In reply to: md20
Thu, 01-17-2008 - 10:25pm

I think you will find the majority of the women on these boards that actually participate in anal sex also find it pleasurable.

I wouldn't worry about how many others do it or enjoy it -- if it feels right for you and your SO then that is all that should matter.





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Registered: 12-26-2007
In reply to: md20
Fri, 01-18-2008 - 11:37am
I was scared that it would hurt when it was first brought up, and it did for a minute but we used ALOT of lubricant and then it was fine. Just try a couple of positions to find the one that suits you the best.
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Registered: 12-26-2007
In reply to: md20
Fri, 01-18-2008 - 12:36pm

I always think that it is uncomfortable when it first goes in but after that yes it feels good and alot of woman do have very intense orgasms.

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Registered: 12-27-2007
In reply to: md20
Fri, 01-18-2008 - 3:31pm
It feels wonderful, and getting good info, and taking your time will make it all the better. Many, many women love it, some will not tell you that though. Others will tell you tht they hate it because it hurts. Well, fact of the matter is, it doesn't hurt when done right, and they were unfortunate enough to be with lovers who just didnt know what they were doing. Take your

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