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| Fri, 04-20-2007 - 11:41am |
Hello all,
I am new to this particular message board, but I was considering having anal sex for the first time and I was wondering if anyone could give me a few suggestions..
I think I am going to like it, but I could be wrong! I know to expect a "tad bit" of pain, but I hear once you get thru the pain, it is quite enjoyable.
Can anyone out there help make it easier ? any suggestions or am I just plain nuts for thinking about it! LOL
thanks in advance
Cassy

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I dont know what size your SO is but Im rather large so we started with fingers smaller toys then used a whole lot of lube and I work my way in while she was very relaxed and ready I never have gotten all of it in but its good enough she didnt have any pain what so ever she even came hopefully you will feel the same way. Have you ever used fingers or smaller toys? Or any anal at all? Also do you know how to add pics to profiles I want to add some pics Im new and dont know what to do? lol Thanks
Yes, I have been playing in the shower, and with toys, but as you can imagine, it is hard to do it to yourself, because I can stop it.. lol
I did purchase some Body Butter at one of the sex toy parties I went to, and I think it will help. They say it is really a good tool for Anal..
And he is big.. has a lot of Gurth!! lol which is nice, but I am a bit scared.. but I want to.. which is why he is excited about it..
and I am sorry, I don't know how to add the pictures, I think you have to be a paid member in order to do it..
My SO likes it the best in the shower now that you bring up the shower since everything is wet and will slide in alot better. What size toys are you tring now?
LOL
I have a draw full of them.. But I started with the "bullet"
they make it look so easy in porn!!! LOL
I first started to fiddle with my fingers.. I like to put my bullet there when I masterbate anyway, it is an awesome sensation..
You have to remember they are pros LOL Im a lil over nine inch and I can only get half of it in my SO what do you think can help me out more of it in?
has she ever gone to a "Sex toy" party? The sell this stuff, and it is called Body butter.. it is made specifically for it.. it is like a thin oil.. it is awesome. I have been using it to "help"
or just PUSH harder.. LOL.. that isn't a problem I would complain about if I was your SO..lol
You would or wouldnt complain about it?
Welcome to the board Cassy, I'm glad you stopped by.
Anal sex should not be painful. Here are some things that should help you through the experience:
- Be very relaxed. Often having already had an orgasm helps cut the anxiety. I also find it helpful if he has already had an orgasm, as it allows him to be more patient.
- Do not use numbing solutions. You need to feel what is going on to avoid injury.
- Some people prefer to take time to work up to a penis. They start with fingers, toys, etc., and often use these for a period of time prior to trying anal sex. (Personally, I have found that being highly aroused is enough, never played with toys or fingers.)
- Use lots of lube. Once you think you have used enough lube, use some more.
- Push out as if you are going to poop while he is entering you. You won't poop, but your muscles will not be able to tense up.
- Pain is a sign that something is wrong. While it is new, and there may be a little bit of pain, having him follow your direction, stop if you say stop, will allow you to take him in a little bit at a time. Once he gets past the 2 groups of muscles, he will be able to thrust, and there should be no more pain. If there is pain, or extreme pain, you need to stop the activity. Pain is a sign that something is wrong.
- Some people prefer to be clean prior to anal sex. Some tips are to empty your bowels a couple of hours beforehand. Some people use a small enema, by replacing the solution with warm water. Also, a shower can help with cleanliness.
- Your SO may want to wear a condom. It will help to protect him from getting an infection, and it will make clean up easier. The bacteria can cause infection for both of you. His penis must be clean before going to vaginal sex.
Good luck with your new experience, anal sex can be very pleasurable for both of you.
"...do you know how to add pics to profiles I want to add some pics Im new and dont know what to do..."
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