Anal sex

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Registered: 09-13-2006
Anal sex
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Tue, 03-13-2007 - 2:44pm
I am a little embarrassed to be asking about this....but I have to. My boyfriend and I have anal sex quite often, I would say 50% of the time and we have sex itleast once everyday. Sometimes when we have anal sex....when he pulls out there is **poop** on his manhood...and a little is around my back end. Now when we watch porn together and they have anal sex....I never see that. Is it just me or does this happen with a lot of women?
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Registered: 03-12-2007
In reply to: yummy_mummy3
Tue, 03-13-2007 - 3:10pm

I watched this show called Seymore Butts, he's a porn producer, and its like a documentary on what goes into watching a porn. One of the shows he was setting up an anal sex scene and the girl chosen went to the bathroom with an enema kit (it looked like a douche bottle) to clean up before the shot.

Porn is just an exagerated fantasy land where Poop doesn't seem to exisit. If you don't like the idea of the mess, then you can try the douche bottle enema, I suppose (look it up, talk to your doctor - im no expert for sure!) but it seems like you and your husband are very close to one another and I'm sure he doesn't mind a little mess for the pleasure you both recieve from anal.

Personally, I can't get over the pain of anal sex even though my bf wants it almost all the time. When I try, it just hurts too much! Any tips?

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Registered: 09-13-2006
In reply to: yummy_mummy3
Tue, 03-13-2007 - 3:28pm
Hey.....I'm not going to lie...at first it hurt---pretty bad, but I just figured it can't hurt forever...so he was very slow putting it in, and he would be very gentle and take things very slow the first few times. After doing it a handful of times the pain ceased and he was able to go faster and be rougher. It seems as though your back end gradually loosens--or stretches a bit, which to me took away the initial pain. Also, I found that it was less painful at first when we were in the diggy style position---not missionary, and not me on top. Those positions came into play after a little while...once he had worked me in---(not sure how else to say it)..haha. At first we did it two or three times a week....now we do it in that end almost everyday, and it feels just as good as the other. Don't forget that lube is a must....or his spit(not sure itf that's gross to you or not---but it's kinda fun just like in porn). Hope this helps.
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Registered: 12-12-2006
In reply to: yummy_mummy3
Tue, 03-13-2007 - 4:25pm

Well, you know what your anus is for, and you know what's inside it. If it doesn't bother your b/f, don't let it bother you.

You could do an enema first, but they're messy, and take time....which would be kind of a point killer. It's also a bad practice, because it can mess up your body's routine.

You can try to move your bowels before sex, but that can't always be done "on command"...and besides, your intestines are constantly producing feces, and they're constantly moving downward, so within a few minutes, there'll be more there.

What happens in porn is NOT real life. What happens in porn is choreographed and orchestrated, real life isn't.

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Registered: 12-19-2006
In reply to: yummy_mummy3
Wed, 03-14-2007 - 10:26am
Some people suggest using a small enema a couple of hours beforehand. Since you are not using it as a laxative, they recommend that you replace the fluid with a small amount of warm water. Since you are having anal sex so often, I'm not sure if it would mess up your body to do this everyday. Also, showering beforehand can be helpful, and he could wear a condom so that he protects himself from infection. The bacteria can cause both of you infection, so it is important to follow some basic rules and take time to clean up before and after anal sex.


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Registered: 12-20-2004
In reply to: yummy_mummy3
Wed, 03-14-2007 - 3:37pm
Belle try this...The main reason it hurts is you may be "clentching" a little when he is trying to enter. Some times it seems it may be involuntary. After the lube is applied and he is going to enter, YOU push out as if you are going to try to poop.(you wont). What this does is it relaxes the sphincter muscle (the one that "clentches"). When you push out, it is impossible to clentch at the same time...Try it alone with your vibrator first to see that it does actually work.. The harder you push out, the easier it will be for him to enter.
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Registered: 03-14-2007
In reply to: yummy_mummy3
Wed, 03-14-2007 - 4:23pm
my boyfriend brought up anal sex, and I'm not too sure how I feel on it. Your replies have been helpful but I am wondering, did you just go straight to trying anal sex or was there anything that you did to prepare yourself for that? For some reason the second he mentioned it I was completely turned off. How can I get passed this feeling?
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Registered: 12-20-2004
In reply to: yummy_mummy3
Wed, 03-14-2007 - 7:21pm
Well you could take the attitude that you are pleasuring him, the man you love....That may help.. Anal sex is just something either you will like it or you wont.
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Registered: 12-19-2006
In reply to: yummy_mummy3
Wed, 03-14-2007 - 10:00pm

I think most women who have a pleasurable experience during anal sex quickly get over the feelings of being turned off by it. My DH has never tried anal sex because he is turned off by it -- but in other relationships, I have had anal sex. It produces very intense orgasms and is very pleasurable. But, I do think it is important that you are ready to experience it and feel completely comfortable with (and trusting of) your partner.

My DH is trying to warm up to the idea. I don't think I would ever want anal sex all of the time, but I will definitely be ready when he is!



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Registered: 03-11-2005
In reply to: yummy_mummy3
Thu, 03-15-2007 - 4:42am
Here is what works for us. Buy a Fleet Enema in the local drugstore. Empty the laxative solution that it comes filled with. Refill with luke warm water, lube and use the enema then shower. You will be squeeky clean after this. It only takes a couple of ounces of water to do the job-no need for a bulky setup. The guy should use a condom to prevent infection. Lube up with lots of lube and enjoy clean anal.
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Registered: 04-20-2007
In reply to: yummy_mummy3
Fri, 04-20-2007 - 7:16am
are you going to the toilet before you have anal sex because that could be the cause of it you should always make sure you have empted yoour bowels before proceeding other wise something like that will happen plus your bf is more likly to get an infection if not taken care of