Anal Sex - Am i a freak?
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| Thu, 05-13-2004 - 10:51am |
Anyway i have a problem, well its not really a problem but, i am disgusted with the idea of anal sex and it makes me feel sick that guys arnt even remotley disgusted by it, i mean doesnt it turn them off that excreation is up there? anyway i know im coming across as a bit over the top but the reason i am worried is because on these boards it seems like no other women find it odd and men all seem to want it and im afraid that one day my man will ask for it. He has never really raised it or seemed interested in it but my friend (who has been around lol) is the same as me and she says every guy she has been with has asked her if she will do it so theres no way that my guy hasnt at least thought about it. But i hate the idea of him even wanting it :( i feel so stupid cos i get worked up about soemthing that hasnt even happened. It is possible for a man not to want it isnt there? all his friends have done it and loved it so im worried they might get him thinking about it. Im sorry this is long and stupid really lol but, whats so good about it for a guy?
Thank you much Xxx

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And even if your guy WAS interested, it doesn't mean that you're obligated to do it with him! It's YOUR body and if the thought of the act is disgusting to you, then your DH should respect that and NOT expect you to indulge him. You're partners, NOT servants to one another.
Don't worry about what hasn't happened yet. And IF the subject DOES come up in the future, discuss it without judgement or criticism THEN!
If YOU feel this strongly against something, I would suggest that you seek his feelings, including whether or not he'll be able to live without it.
To the OP, I agree with the others. You don't have to do anything you don't want to, and considering you can cause damage to yourself with anal sex I can't understand why any reasonable man wouldn't understand if you didn't want to participate. Just talk to him about it.
Leticia
Lot's of women don't like it, and lot's of men don't either. However, lots of both sexes are in the other camp too. Just do what feels natural and makes you and your husband happy and leave it at that. No need to judge yourself for something you don't want to do, nor is there reason to judge him for something that he hasn't asked for.
Peace.
Scott.
I was introduced to anal sex in my late teens, didn't like it at first, but I guess I was just trying to please the person I was with. I did find it usefull, to augement some kind of birth control. and at that point, started to learn to enjoy it. It was that, or nothing during part of the month, after I had my child when I was 20 (I'm a single mom)
When I met my boyfriend (three years now) I introduced him to anal sex, after having slept with him several times, and he found he enjoyed it, after he got over worrying if it was hurt me (it wasn't) At this point, it is part of our sex life togther.
I'd have to say, I was introduced to anal sex, by the same person who introduced me to having oral sex performed on me....which produced my first orgasms. Anal sex, coming after oral sex, began prducing an orgasm, which, in it's self , was a wonderment to me.
Didn't take long to want either vaginal or anal intercourse, once I expereinced the oral sex.
Today, I'm not sure I'd be so apt to have anal sex so frequently, if it wasn't producing an orgasm. To much work involved Oh, and yes, use an enema, lots of lub, and get comfortable with anal foreplay. You need the anal foreplay, and need to want to have it all happen....or say NO.
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