Anal Sex Question

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Registered: 12-29-2006
Anal Sex Question
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Wed, 08-08-2007 - 6:21pm
After months of him asking, my boyfriend and I had anal sex. I have heard that you need lots of lubrication when you do this, but I had had a little too much to drink and this was not planned. We didn't use any lubrication, but we were in a swimming pool and he was pretty gentle. It wasn't necessarily painful, but it felt a little strange for the next day or so. Could this have done permanent damage? Or could the water have been a sufficient lubricant?
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Registered: 03-31-2007
Wed, 08-08-2007 - 6:32pm

Welcome to the board dandelions7.

If you are feeling okay now, chances are you didn't do any permanent damage. I would advise against having anal sex when intoxicated -- as you do need to be able to feel what's going on. You don't want any possible pain numbed because pain is your bodies way of telling you that something is wrong. If done properly, there is no pain involved with anal sex.

The water will not provide a lubricant. If anything, it washes away any natural lube that the two of you produce. If you try this again in the pool, try a lube that requires soap to be washed off. Our favorite lube to use in the water is KY Intrigue. It has a silky feel and lasts for a very long time.



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Wed, 08-08-2007 - 7:14pm

You most likely don't have damage done if you don't have pain.

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Registered: 08-01-2007
Wed, 08-08-2007 - 7:33pm
I suppose every woman's body is different to some extent, but from years of experience I can assure you that you are fine. My husband and I have strictly anal sex, and my anus is as good as the first day we did it. Lube certainly helps the process and makes it less intense and should help with pain if you are encountering it. I personally do not use lube, and my husband has a fairly large penis. I will not lie, on many occasions it has been very painful and I have had some bleeding, but thats my choice, Im sure regular use of lubrication would prevent any bleeding or tearing. I have also noted that thrusts where my husbands penis comes completely out of me, and in again can be the most painful. If your man simply inserts his penis all the way into you, and thrusts against you, it will be much easier on you. I highly recommend this as the sensations you will feel deep into your thorax and stomach can be amazing. You noted the water. That probably did nothing for lubrication, but in my opinion it really makes it more enjoyable.
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Registered: 07-17-2007
Wed, 08-08-2007 - 11:03pm

Oh wow, Jess, oh man!

Pain and bleeding, no lube! I can't figure out what would be pleasurable about this situation. I mean, my god...

I know you have been doing it for years and have suffered, I imagine greatly, no ill results, but how is this pleasurable for you at all. Pulling completely out and thrusting back in, I winced. The damage you can do is incredible, because you have escaped any so far does not mean you should continue this masochistic behaviour. The tissue of the rectum is not like the vagina, with rough sex, it can tear. It doesn't self lubricate, and you could tear one of the sphicter muscles. Why, oh why, would you do this to yourself when some good lube can make anal sex incredible for both partners. I would hate to see you suffer from this, but i know it's your thing, I'm not judging but wow!

silicone in water is the way to go, Do the grind instead of the thrust or you might find you got a mini enema. That anal eze stuff should be banned, I can't believe that there are good stores that still sell it! Be careful with the silicone around the pool, it is way slick.

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Registered: 12-12-2006
Thu, 08-09-2007 - 12:06am

He must REALLY be big if you feel it in your thorax! That's the upper half of your body, including the sternum and ribs!

Somehow, your description of it kind of turns my stomach......pain and bleeding, but it's GREAT? Wow!

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Registered: 03-08-2004
Thu, 08-09-2007 - 11:56am

I've never had

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Registered: 07-17-2007
Thu, 08-09-2007 - 5:38pm
That's kinda what I felt like Issy. It's her body, but that just doesn't sound pleasnat. I wouldn't want to be the giver or the receiiver.

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