Anal Sex Question - Scared!! Please Help

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Registered: 05-29-2006
Anal Sex Question - Scared!! Please Help
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Thu, 07-27-2006 - 10:14am

Hi everyone,

I have a couple of quick questions...

1. I had anal sex for the first time about 2-3 weeks ago. Ever since then, I feel like I haven't been the same down there. It kind of feels like a little piece of something is in there but I dont know what it is. Has anyone ever had this before or have any idea what it might be??

2. I'm nervous about the way he did it also, because I have been diagnosed with hpv. The guy was using a condom and we were having vaginal sex, and then all of a sudden he just kind of switched to anal on me without saying anything, so i'm very worried that something might be wrong anally now meaning the hpv. What should I do??

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Registered: 07-26-2005
Thu, 07-27-2006 - 11:41am

Oh, GREAT......he never said a word, he just DID it? NICE GUY! It's bad enough when you're prepared....but to just ram it in? That's a guy you should NEVER turn your back on again!

About what you "feel".....it could very well be a fissure (tear) that's not healed yet. If it keeps bothering you, then you need to see your doctor, and then you can ask the doctor about the HPV. Not sure about that!

Seriously, I would think twice about being with a guy that would do that to you!

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Registered: 05-29-2006
Thu, 07-27-2006 - 11:42am
BTW - I'm no longer with that guy....
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 07-27-2006 - 11:42am
If something doesn't feel right, then get checked. It's probably inflammation that you're feeling but it never hurts to be safe. When in doubt, check.
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Registered: 07-25-2006
Fri, 07-28-2006 - 11:52pm

I agree with the other posters, if you're concerned go talk to your doctor. It's absolutely NOTHING to be embarassed about (had to say that just in case you were thinking it's not something you want to discuss with your doctor). Because anal sex, when done right, is a very enjoyable sexual experience. And you used a condom! Good for you! Very smart.

I'm not even going to comment on the HPV because I have NO clue what that stands for (no, I'm not stupid just not informed on what it is)

Anal sex is best experienced with a man you TRUST. That's a given. And if/when you do it again here's a few tips that work really well for me (again, you must trust the man you're with). The more relaxed and turned on you are, the better. LOTS OF LUBRICATION. And I mean LOTS OF LUBRICATION! (that could be why you're feeling that sensations still - tears in the rectum are easily caused by anal intercourse and like your mouth, EVERYTHING in there feels 10x 'more' than it actually is). And go sloooooooooow at the beginning. Once you've accomodated your man fully, keep it slow for a bit. Your muscles will relax naturally, you'll begin to feel the 'good' sensations and then it's on to the hot stuff. Some people just don't enjoy anal sex, and that's fine. For those of us that do, HOW you do it makes all the difference in your/his enjoyment of it.

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Sat, 07-29-2006 - 10:26am

HPV - Human Papilloma Virus - The fastest spreading STD among heterosexuals of all ages. Various forms of it are herpes, genital warts, and Condoms are no protection against it's spread. It can also cause cervical cancer!

I don't think the "instructions" apply here, since she wasn't a willing "participant", and after that experience, will probably never be a willing participant. Her partner, on the other hand is either completely ignorant of the proper way of doing it, or more than likely, doesn't CARE about her or her wishes....otherwise he wouldn't have "surprised" her with it. A caring and considerate partner would ASK first.

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Registered: 07-25-2006
Sat, 07-29-2006 - 10:34am

Well, thanks for the information. I really didn't know what it meant. Still don't really so I'm going to research on it myself. Huh. Ignorance aint bliss is it?

I agree with your post, and my opinion about it WAS based on a partner that was SAFE and that was TRUSTED. Don't think I gave her anything less than that in my reply.

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Registered: 03-30-2003
Sun, 07-30-2006 - 10:17pm

On the HPV, it has always been my understanding that HPV/HSV (herpes) and the such in that family are skin-to-skin viral infections. Meaning, that to contract them you must have skin touching skin. I realize that if you were having intercourse, your 'fluids' would be on the condom but I would steer towards thinking that you can not get the HPV virus in that area if there was no skin to skin contact. Also, studies have shown that HPV will often spread, on it's own, to surrounding moist type areas so you probably already have it in that 'general' area although you've not had any symptoms. AND, just incase that info isn't enough to cause more questions than it answered, For the most part you will probably have built up an immunity to the virus as your body already carries it. That doesn't mean that I would recommend unprotected anal sex, just... trying to point out some fairly optimistic views on HPV.

Hope this helps! Or confuses?!?! If it confuses, maybe it can distract you! lol!