Anal: What's the attraction?

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Anal: What's the attraction?
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Wed, 11-10-2004 - 7:57am
It's obvious that a lot of posters enjoy anal sex. I did try it years ago and it didn't do much for me. What's the attraction? If there is a perfectly good vagina available, why would someone opt for anal? I'm not being judgemental, just curious. Maybe I should try it again.
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Registered: 04-01-2003
Wed, 11-10-2004 - 6:35pm
I know a lot of women that wouldn't admit to a pollster that they regularly engage in anal - but they do. I know *I* don't talk about it IRL to anyone, but DH and I have done it many times.
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Registered: 10-19-2004
Wed, 11-10-2004 - 6:47pm
Attraction???? Well with my first husband it happened because I was pregnant and it was easier than vaginal since I was huge. With my current husband because he was courious. It feels different. It can be stimulating since the nerves that run around the anus and vagina and up to the clit are all attached. On an emotional level it's a way of showing trust.

If it's done right then it is enjoyable and adds intamacy and variety to a couple's sex life. No it is not an everyday thing or even a spontanous thing. And personally I wouldn't recomend it to a young girl or lady because I feel at that point in a womans life she isn't mature enough to enjoy it for what it is.

I don't think it is slighly out there either. It's just quiet and private between two people who trust and care for each other.

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Wed, 11-10-2004 - 6:53pm
<<<"anal intercourse is generally an experiment or occasional activity rather than a common mode of sexual expression>>>

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Registered: 04-01-2003
Wed, 11-10-2004 - 6:59pm
Hey, hey, don't disagree with me. I'm on your side!
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Registered: 10-18-2001
Wed, 11-10-2004 - 8:41pm
>>Newcomer and Udry write about "adolescence and teen" sex,<<

Let's not forget that it's 20 years out of date too.


"Lies, damn lies and statistics" - Mark Twain.

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Wed, 11-10-2004 - 9:09pm

Where was I when they were doing their research for their stats??


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Registered: 11-11-2004
Thu, 11-11-2004 - 8:08am
It is my husband's preference. He would rather have anal than vaginal sex. He says that it feels better than my vagina. Vaginal sex is a rare occurrence, and only happens if I ask him for it. I do not enjoy anal sex, but it does not hurt me, so it is not a problem.

I do feel a loss, but it's only my silly ego. I know that I should not put so much of my self-esteem into my vagina.

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Registered: 10-19-2004
Thu, 11-11-2004 - 8:29am
Sorry, I am still learning the inner workings of the board...
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Thu, 11-11-2004 - 8:49am
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Thu, 11-11-2004 - 9:54am
guys love it.us gals have to give it up or else someone else is gonna.i had to force myself to get used to it.purchased toys to use on myself so that i'll get used to it. anal sex is the cat's meow of sex.most of us gals don't like it but we do it because that's what guys seem to want these days.you have to keep up with the competition because the more open you are sexually the more your value goes up.every guy i had sex with so far likes anal sex more than regular sex.you have to be open to anything a guy wants or else you get trashed and no girl wantsthat to happen.gotta be ready for it the first time we have sex because he's gonna want it.and i forgot the word is that guys feel that girls' dont get anything much out of regular sex so it does not matter which end they use.