Anal: What's the attraction?

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Anal: What's the attraction?
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Wed, 11-10-2004 - 7:57am
It's obvious that a lot of posters enjoy anal sex. I did try it years ago and it didn't do much for me. What's the attraction? If there is a perfectly good vagina available, why would someone opt for anal? I'm not being judgemental, just curious. Maybe I should try it again.

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Registered: 10-19-2004
Thu, 11-11-2004 - 10:09am
God I am so glad I am older and don't believe that crap... If a guy only "values" you because of what you will do in bed then he has no value to me. I would rather be alone...
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Registered: 11-11-2004
Thu, 11-11-2004 - 10:28am
it is not your only value.it makes you more valuable thanthe next gal.its a mans world us gals except it.
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Registered: 04-23-2004
Thu, 11-11-2004 - 10:39am
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anonymous user
Thu, 11-11-2004 - 3:16pm
My ex told me about the girl that he had anal with in a different conversion than the one where he wanted anal sex. I had asked him one time if he had ever had anal and he told me once with an ex. But the other day when he wanted anal and I said said no he was fine with it and didn't say anything to persuade me into it or anything about an ex.

He would never try to make me do something that I didn't want to do or tell me than an ex did it to persuade me to do it.

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anonymous user
Thu, 11-11-2004 - 3:37pm
Not to be mean but you must date so rude or abusive men. "gotta be ready for it the first time we have sex because he's gonna want it." I have had sex with 5 guys and have never had any of them want anal much less expect anal the first time we have sex. " i forgot the word is that guys feel that girls' dont get anything much out of regular sex so it does not matter which end they use." - My bf knows that I get alot of enjoy out of regular sex and always asks me what I want and makes sure that I am pleased.

I really think that you need to seek some counselling because I think you have very low self esteem.

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Registered: 10-18-2001
Thu, 11-11-2004 - 3:59pm
>>guys love it.us gals have to give it up or else someone else is gonna.<<

Your whole post is so sad because that is so not what real life is about. You must be in a situation where the guys and your b/f's are really unlike the majority of normal men. Sure, anal sex can be enjoyable for the men, and some men do want it regularly but I think that the vast majority of men view it as something that might have once in a blue moon. And there are lots of men that aren't interested in it. Myself, I don't know one guy in my circle of friends that would expect anal sex regularly. They also respect their women much more than the men that you know.

I think that you realise that any guy that forces you to do something during sex is not worth being with. You should realise that sex about your enjoyment and your self-respect as well. You have the right to demand respect and demand equality in the bedroom. You are not some sex toy that a man can demand things of. If he demands and forces you to do something then I would be pleased if he left me when I didn't agree to his demands because it would save me the hassle of telling him to go away. It's simply not worth putting up with a man that behaves like that.

It's so sad that you see sex and relationships in this way.

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Registered: 04-01-2003
Thu, 11-11-2004 - 10:27pm
I figured. But I *had* to mess with ya bit!

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