Anal....do you like it?
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Anal....do you like it?
| Mon, 07-31-2006 - 5:26pm |
I'm just curious, I'm new to this community and I am really interested in exploring anal sex with my fiancee. Of course, I am a man so I am more likely to enjoy it, but I would like to get some responses from women out there as to whether you like it or not, and what you like or don't like about it. Also, do you find it easy to orgasm during anal sex? Is it easier to orgasm during anal, or during regular intercourse or oral? Just want to get some thoughts on how much women like it, I think my fiancee might enjoy it but I want to ease her into the idea by getting other women's opinions on it. Thank you! I would appreciate responses from women. Thanks!

I'm one woman that really enjoys it.
You know, it really doesn't matter what other women think about the act, whether they enjoy it or not. Your fiancee' will have her own feelings about it and those should be respected.
My Dh and I are on the same page about anal....neither of us are interested in it. I prefer orgasming from cunnilingus and intercourse with manual stimulation of the clitoris.
As long as you don't pressure your fiancee', subtley or otherwise, to try anal, then she may decide to try it on her own.
Bring the subject up but allow her to think about it and decide if it's something she's interested in trying. If she is willing to try it, be prepared that she may not like it and might not want to do it again.
Remember, if she is turned off by the idea, then she won't enjoy it and will likely feel discomfort or even pain. This is one act that BOTH partners really need to be on the same page about for mutual pleasure.
Definitely suggest all the things that interest you, and encourage her to do the same, but respect her feelings about all of them. None of us get everything we may want from our partner, and shouldn't expect to. But people can change over time and you might find that she's more open to certain ideas in the future.
Edited 8/1/2006 5:05 pm ET by katmandoo2001
Thanks for all the replies everyone, I really appreciate the other perspectives.
I have used fingers before and to be honest it's really hard to guage her enjoyment of it! I try to go off of physical cues like breathing and movements, and I have also tried to get her to speak up if she likes it while I'm doing it. She seems too nervous or embaressed to say if she likes it, or she doesn't want to make me feel bad by saying she doesn't. Either way, we've been together over 6 years and we have always had a lack of communication especailly in regards to sex. I feel it's just time to bring it up face to face and work through our thoughts and differences on this as well as other issues.
I wanted the women's opinions because I think it would build my confidence a little bit to find out what women really do like about it, and that it really can be enjoyable for them. I am hoping that she will give it a go with me and we can work together to make it just one more enjoyable activity we share. Thanks everyone! More opinions always welcome too =O)
Thanks gal for the reply,
My fiancee and I are both 23 years old, been together for about 6.5. I agree that it would probably be easier to propose ideas like anal or any other as we get older and she hopefully has more curiosities. The problem is, after 6.5 years, most things we do are the same as always, which is ok but you'd think after that long we'd want to try new things ;^) As a matter of fact, we used to do more things back when we were around 19 or 20, but things have gotten more.... how do you say... unadventurous since we moved in together 2 or 3 years ago. Anyway, like I said we are 23 and young, hopefully together for the rest of our lives and I look forward to exploring new things in the future. Thanks!
Hi, I'm new here and would like to share my experience with anal play. I haven't yet had anal sex because I'm working up to it, but I love, *really* love, playing with toys. The sensation can be incredible for some women and thankfully I'm one of them. What I think you should keep in mind is that it can take a long time, and working your way up to larger toys gradually, and having a partner who wants you to enjoy yourself and isn't trying to get you to do "it" can make all the difference in whether or not it becomes another fun bedroom activity. What I was grateful for is that I wasn't pressured into anal play. I decided I wanted to try it and I've been having a blast ever since! I think a good way to introduce it would be to have her use toys on you and at some point, if she hasn't expressed an interest in it, you could mention that from what you've read about anal sex and women it can be an enjoyable experience, and produces a different and fantastic kind of orgasm for some women, and maybe she would like to try a small toy and see if she likes it? As long as you seem interested in *her* pleasure, and I'm hoping that you are, I think it could set the stage for anal sex later on.
I don't know if what I said was already mentioned because I haven't yet read all the responses. I hope my post was helpful :-)
Forgot to add that what is really sexy and gets women going is a guy who first and foremost wants a woman to be happy in the bedroom. The more giving you are, the more attentive to her needs, the more likely a woman is to reciprocate. I never wanted to try new things with guys who were more concerned about getting their sexual kicks than with satisfying me. Big turn-off. What turns me on is that my partner wants to please me and never expects anything in return. *Huge* turn-on and makes me want to give as good as I get!
Edited 8/3/2006 9:56 pm ET by batgirl5