...and then he pulled out a...

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...and then he pulled out a...
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Wed, 08-25-2004 - 5:27pm
One of the recent discussions on this board made me curious...

You've met a great guy, made love a few times, everything is going great both sexually and relationship-wise. You had a few brief discussions about sex along the way and he knows that you're pretty game to try anything within reason in the bedroom. Maybe he knows that you've used sextoy/s or that you would be game enough to try them.

You're in bed one night, he reaches over to the nightstand and retrieves something from the drawer - it's a vibrator. It's not yours, it's definitely his.

What thoughts run through your mind?

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Registered: 10-18-2001
Wed, 08-25-2004 - 9:06pm
>>I wonder what that says about me?<<

Looks like you might have the opportunity to go vibrator shopping with the new partner sometime. Sounds like fun to me! :-)

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Registered: 05-21-2004
Wed, 08-25-2004 - 9:14pm
i would have a few thoughts:

WOO HOO...he's into the fun stuff!

but then...waaaait a minute...i'm SURE if he's doing this with me, he's done this with other women. and while a tiny part of me kinda likes to pretend that i'm the only woman my BF has ever been with, intellectually i KNOW that's not true. but there's just something much more tangible about envisioning him pulling this out on his ex as opposed to just having sex with her that would gross me out more...there's a difference. i don't know why and i can't really defend it, but for me there's a difference.

i would DEF be concerned about the hygene stuff, but honestly not as much as other posts here. i would tho want it to be re-cleaned before we use it and use some hot soapy making out to keep the mood up!

the BEST case for me would be if he decided he wanted one of his own and we picked one out and bought it together, but he surprised me with it one night...so the 'surprise' element is still there, but i KNOW it was just for me!!

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Registered: 04-19-2003
Wed, 08-25-2004 - 9:43pm

Yarn_lover and Tish....thanks for making me laugh


I'm quite miserable with a virus at the moment, and a good laugh is exactly what I need

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Thu, 08-26-2004 - 7:47am
Awww.........(((hugs))) coming out to you Yasmin, hope you are feeling better soon.

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Thu, 08-26-2004 - 12:09pm
Don't worry phatgenes, I thought exactly the same thing.

LOL

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Thu, 08-26-2004 - 1:12pm
Interesting. The first time I was intimate with my SO, I brought along a vibrator (a Magic Wand) and she was thrilled. Years later, she still talks about it. Her reaction was along the lines of "here's someone who really cares about pleasing me, not just about getting off himself." It made a very positive impression on her; I earned a lot of points.

In fact, that vibrator was brand new, but we didn't discuss that until much later. And for the record, I'm very scrupulous about keeping items like that clean. That particular vibrator has a soft cover that can be removed, washed with soap and water and cleaned with a disinfectant. And with dildos and other toys, I always pick ones that are made of solid silicone, not rubber -- that way they can be thoroughly cleaned and sterilized.

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Registered: 07-30-2004
Thu, 08-26-2004 - 5:52pm
Lol. Maybe it's a Canadian thing?
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Thu, 08-26-2004 - 9:54pm
I hear that!!! Several years ago I had to go away for 5 days for a seminar. When I came home (and I *had* cleaned before I left) I was horrified to see the house. Yes, DH and DSs were personally clean, but my house....:o When DH mentioned that some friends stopped by Friday night I said "But you didn't LET THEM IN, did you????" He says "Yeah....and...?" (I'm thinking, OMG, they'll never come back, lol)

Generally speaking, there probably isn't a whole lot of difference between a previously used penis and a previously used vibrator. I *do* know that DH's penis was washed many many times between his split with his ex and our first time. I wouldn't know if the vibrator had been. Still don't think I'd be interested but if it was someone I'd keep seeing, I would probably suggest that yes, I think a toy would be fun but would prefer to get my own.

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