Annoyed.

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Registered: 12-05-2004
Annoyed.
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Wed, 07-11-2007 - 1:19pm

While reading on the boards, i keep seeing how amazing g-spot orgasms are, and how hot FE can be. I know while having one on one time with myself, while using a back massager, so it has two vibrating heads, one ends up on my clit the other sometimes rests on my pelvic area.. that i have had some FE.. but its just like getting very very wet to the point that it sort of flows out, but not to any extreme amount where id need a towel, just wets my panties.. havent been able to do this in quite some time tho..

last night while we were having sex, i brought it up and we thought we'd try for it and we got into all sorts of positions to find the best one to hit the spot, and i got the feeling of having to pee, which ive read on here is a good sign that ur hitting the right spot! however, every time he would slam into me, it felt good, but at the same time it hurt bc it felt so good, like, my clit would throb in pain, it was like i had to burst sooo bad but it just would not happen.. i relaxed and concentrated then just concentrated on the sex not trying to force it, and as good as it was, it was sooooo frustrating to not be able to cum, especially when it felt like i needed it SO badly..
i ended up just getting up and going to bed feeling like my body had failed me or something and hoping bf didnt feel like he wasnt doing it right, i did assure him it wasnt his fault..

whats going on, help me!!! how can i make this happen and has anyone experienced the pleasure/pain of the feeling of having to cum so badly but it just wont happen, like its right there but just wont release itself??

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Registered: 03-31-2007
In reply to: sexylilflirt
Wed, 07-11-2007 - 1:51pm

I think a lot of people have experienced the frustration of being near orgasm without results. That's not necessarily about g-spot orgasm, just any kind of orgasm.

For the g-spot situation....

I don't recommend that he "slam" into you. While I love rough sex in many positions, the stimulation to the g-spot needs to be different. It's more of a constant rubbing that is needed. Try being in a position where he can take shorter strokes that continually rub back and forth on the g-spot.

One position that can be fairly successful for many is to elevate your hips (lie on about 2 pillows) and have him use his fingers or a vibrator that will stimulate your g-spot. Combining that with clitoral stimulation is a good idea too.

As for during IC, we have the most success with a g-spot orgasm while laying in a "T" position. This makes it easier for him to penetrate me less deeply, and the angle works well for hitting my g-spot. You can even have him lie still and let you do the movement in this position.



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Registered: 12-05-2004
In reply to: sexylilflirt
Wed, 07-11-2007 - 11:53pm
Thanks for the advice, ill give that a shot. just to clear things up, i used "slam" as a lack for another word at the time, it wasnt rough.. just your adverage in the midst of things good sex.. not that i dont like to get rough now and then, but we were trying to make the g-spot orgasm happen so we didnt go that route.