ANY SUGGESTIONS?????
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ANY SUGGESTIONS?????
| Fri, 07-07-2006 - 12:39pm |
OK I HAVE A PROBLEM. I AM A 23 YEAR OLD MOTHER OF TWO AND I HAVE THIS STUPID ON AND OFF RELATIONSHIP WITH THE FATHER OF MY CHILDREN. HE WAS IN PRISON FOR ABOUT 2 YEARS AND RECENTLY GOT OUT. I HAVE BEEN WITH OTHER MEN 2 TO BE EXACT IN THOSE TWO YEARS AND NO ONE IN THE LAST 10 MONTHS AND WE RECENTLY HAD SEX TOGETHER AND HIS RESPONCE TO ME IS "THERE IS NO WAY YOU HAVE NOT HAD SEX IN THAT LONG" EMBARASSING BUT DAMN IS IT THAT LOOSE OR IS HE JUST BEING MEAN. I KNOW AFTER YOU HAVE CHILDREN THINGS CHANGE BUT I DON'T THINK THAT MUCH. IF I AM THAT LOOSE AND NON SATISFYING IN BED WHAT SHOULD I DO? THIS IS TOTALLY JUST EMBARASSING TO ME BUT IT REALLY MAKE ME FEEL LIKE A WHORE WHWN I'M NOT EVEN SLEEPING WITH ANYONE. PLEASE TELL ME WHAT YA'LL THINK!!!!!

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Maybe he's gotten used to different kinds of sex in prison? LOL! No seriously.
Where do guys get the idea that having normal intercourse will stretch out a vagina? Stupid. Not sure what to tell you but unless you experienced some damage during one of your deliveries, your vagina should be just fine.
TO BE HONEST HE ALWAYS SAYS THINGS TO ME LIKE THAT AND I JUST THINK IT IS HIS WAY OF TRYING TO FIGURE SOMTHING OUT. BUT HE SAYS IT SO OFTEN THAT IT STARTS TO MAKE ME THINK MAYBE SOMTHING IS WRONG!
Look, I don't know why he was in prison, but it's clear that he has some problems.
Do you think it's a good idea to be with someone who....1.)doesn't trust you and....2.)may have some issues that could affect you and your children in the future?
Just wondering if it's wise to keep waiting on this guy to change.
Edited 7/7/2006 1:17 pm ET by katmandoo2001
He's all you've got? Sorry, but that's not much. What did you have while he was away for two years...(DUI's and probation??).......who was taking care of you and your children then? You got along without him all that time, and you can get along without him now.
Is this what you want your children to grow up with? A scofflaw? Whether you have boys or girls......they will grow up to imitate what they see.....a man who doesn't obey laws, and a man who abuses their mother.
This guy is emotionally abusing you.....and as long as you feel he's better than nothing, he'll keep right on doing it. I have news for you.......NOTHING is better than being abused. At least you'll have your self respect!
You were homeless, you are now working, going to school and being a mother to two kids, you are a very strong woman, you
tish is exactly right with what she said. You've done well to get back on your feet with two kids in tow. Make sure that you make the right choices for yourself and your children. This guy repeatedly made choices that led to him ending up in prision. No one gets sent to prison for two years by making one silly choice. Just don't forget that when he made these choices for these small crimes he clearly didn't worry about the effect that it would have on his family. If he had been very dedicated to his family he would have chosen to clean his act up and to NOT do the things that eventually landed him in jail.
Now that he is out I believe that he has to work extra hard to be a good father and to prove to you that he can now make choices that will be good for his children and for you. He's not off to a very good start if he's saying things that are insulting to you. It's insulting to you in a couple of ways - he's accusing you of being a slut, and he's personally insulting parts of your body. He should be pleased that you want to have anything to do with him - let alone have sex with him, and he's insulting you. Not a very clever guy in my opinion.
Look after yourself and your kids. Don't let this guy fool you or take advantage of you. Good luck and make sure that you make the right choices.
Uh, ya! I have a suggestion!!! Lose this guy and straighten your life out! COME ON- think about your kids and stop being selfish!
P.S. When you type all in capitals its kind of annoying to read...
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