Any women here like to have sex like men

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Any women here like to have sex like men
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Fri, 07-23-2004 - 10:43pm
Alright, I'm new here, but I need some strangers to help me out with this. I do not feel like the "typical" woman when it comes to sex. I basically like it hard, rough, and right now. None of that foreplay stuff for me! When I'm ready, I'm ready. I was in a sorority back in college, so I've had many a long nights discussing sex with my fellow sisters, but I ALWAYS felt like the odd "man" out. Please tell me I'm not alone! There was a discussion on this board about average time it took for sex. I am a half an hour at the maximum! My husband, on the other hand, has sex like a girl! He likes all the touching and anticipation, he could easily go an hour and a half if you include all the foreplay and touching. I GET SO BORED! I guess I'm just Samantha from Sex and the City, except not as attractive or skinny as Kim Cattrell :)

Thanks for you advice!

~Marlene

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Fri, 07-23-2004 - 11:08pm
I'm pretty much the same way. I usually need a little making out or something first, but no more than 5 minutes before I get all impatient. And I do prefer it pretty rough. We don't usually have sex any longer than like 20 minutes, although part of that may be a health problem on BF's part that we have to get checked out. It's not ONLY him though, cause even when i'm on my own i only go for just a few minutes before i orgasm. But you're not alone! Hope that helps....
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Sat, 07-24-2004 - 1:13am
Very much so, thanks for the response! :)

~Marlene

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Sat, 07-24-2004 - 2:01am
My partner and I sound like you and your husband.

I personally think that she misses out on a lot of the sensual side of sex because she prefers fast, hard, get-it-over-with sex. Her loss.
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Sat, 07-24-2004 - 2:09am
Welcome aboard lipara!

So is it that way 'every' time or just more often than not? Many times Mrs. Para loves to light the candles and body massage each other with the edible oils, but YES she has her "Oh just give it to me!" phases as well. So you're definitely not alone. I think I'm leaning toward agreeing with you that it does appear to be on the side, but not that rare either.

Enjoy the board! :)

C h a r a c t e r


above all else


Mr. Para

 

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Sat, 07-24-2004 - 10:00am

Welcome to the board Marlene and glad you joined in.


Dh and I are the long lasting sex session type most of the time, but not everytime.


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Sat, 07-24-2004 - 1:03pm
I like a fair amount of each. Making love, raw sex, and everything in between. You can pre-plan all you want, it doesn't always come out that way. I can plan a night of heavy love-making, but it may end up as a quickie(too much mental foreplay). I can want a quickie, and end up making love. Sex is unpredictable and I like it that way. I've always enjoyed all of the emotional/physical/spirtual variations of sex and wouldn't be as satisfied with just one aspect of it.
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Sat, 07-24-2004 - 1:10pm
Oh, and I forgot to add, that DH loves to make love too...he's isn't only about raw sex. He's a cuddler and a very-sensual lover as well as a sex-hungry maniac. ;-)
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Sat, 07-24-2004 - 2:51pm
To me, foreplay is what goes on before we get in the bedroom so to speak. How he treats me during the day, does he call to say he's thinking of me, did he do the dishes while I was at work, did he put his hand on the small of my back when we were walking on the street? When I get in the bedroom I'm ready - I don't *need foreplay and yes 1/2 hour is more than enough although I'm ready for more an hour later usually! LOL
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Sat, 07-24-2004 - 3:45pm
Lipara, most women take much longer than men to "get in the mood" for sex. So you are different from the majority of women. My wife needs to be "warmed up" by fondling, hugging, caressing, etc in order to get the most out of intercourse. Women also usually take longer to reach orgasm than men, but some are almost as fast as men. As long as you are getting it the way you want it, that is all that counts. We men try to follow the technique that satisfies our woman.
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Sat, 07-24-2004 - 3:56pm
"We men try to follow the technique that satisfies our woman."

I for one appreciate that about my man and always try to return the favor.

Robin