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| Tue, 03-13-2007 - 2:14pm |
Anyone else not as "snug" down there as they were before childbirth? It has been 1 year, and a million kegels. Just wondering if I am the only one?

Try Kegel excercise balls, like these:
http://www.tantra.com/catalog/product_150.html
That'll help strengthen the muscle some more.
Having a baby has no permanent effect on your vaginal muscles. Kegels have no effect on vaginal muscles, either. Kegels theoretically tightens your PC muscle, which surrounds the vagina, as well as your urethral sphincter and your clitoris.
If you didn't have an episiotomy when you delivered your baby, it's possible that the PC muscle was torn, and not repaired, or not repaired properly. That would make the opening of the vagina looser.
Your vaginal muscles are called "involuntary" muscles, which means you can't "exercise" them. They close tight when not in use, and when you're aroused, (or about to deliver a baby) they relax, but they only relax enough to allow the penis to enter, they don't just "fall open" like a gaping hole!
You might be more "relaxed" about sex than you used to be, and you're lubricating more...which could make it feel looser.
Think about it, if childbirth stretched the vagina permanently, then women who've had several children would have their vagina permanently hanging open, and that doesn't happen. If your PC muscle is looser, don't blame the baby, blame the doctor.
My first son was actually born by c-section after a long labor with nearly 3 hours of pushing. It was the pushing that seemed to make a change in my muscles -- as he didn't pass through the opening at all! I also think many other things can affect the muscles, so do keep doing the kegel's and try the ben-wa balls as some one else mentioned.
I know that I felt it was a waste when the kegel exercises did not work quickly. I also think my hormones were messed up and I was not as aroused -- and my muscles were not reacting the same way during sex that they previously had. My children are a bit older now, less needy, my libido is higher, and my muscles are back in action. So, keep trying and eventually you will get there.