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Anyone else ever done this?
| Mon, 07-23-2007 - 1:07pm |
I'm 50ish and always seem to date younger guys. I told myself I'd never settle for the wrong guy, so I've pretty much stayed single for quite some time. I've had the occasional 'friends with benefits' nights, but for the most part, haven't settled. Anyway, a couple months ago I met the man of my dreams, finally. He's everything I've ever wanted and the feeling is 100% mutual for the first time in my life.
Let me backtrack about most of my past sexual experiences over the past 10 years. As a norm, I must have my bottle of lube with me all the time. I'm dryer than a desert. My man can perform oral sex for however long, but when it comes time to have intercourse, I get dry really quick. This has happened with boyfriends that I thought I loved, and FB's as well.
Now, with the man of my dreams, it's insane! During intercourse, almost every single time, he must touch something inside me and it makes me gush to an extreme!!! He said he's never seen that before...nor has it ever happened to me, ever. Like I said, it's usually the opposite. So my question is: Is this normal? Is there something wrong with me all of a sudden? Has anyone else ever had this happen? I'm talking wet!! Leaves the bed sopping! Not just moist...or wet...I'm talking gushing! It's insane.
Just another reason I truly believe we belong together.
Help!
Let me backtrack about most of my past sexual experiences over the past 10 years. As a norm, I must have my bottle of lube with me all the time. I'm dryer than a desert. My man can perform oral sex for however long, but when it comes time to have intercourse, I get dry really quick. This has happened with boyfriends that I thought I loved, and FB's as well.
Now, with the man of my dreams, it's insane! During intercourse, almost every single time, he must touch something inside me and it makes me gush to an extreme!!! He said he's never seen that before...nor has it ever happened to me, ever. Like I said, it's usually the opposite. So my question is: Is this normal? Is there something wrong with me all of a sudden? Has anyone else ever had this happen? I'm talking wet!! Leaves the bed sopping! Not just moist...or wet...I'm talking gushing! It's insane.
Just another reason I truly believe we belong together.
Help!

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My new guy is doing the same thing to me. I have no ovaries (removed during hysterectomy) and don't use hormone therapy so I had a bit of a dryness problem at times too. Not bad but I usually needed some lube or moisture just to get started. Now everytime my SO and I make love we soak the bed lol. We have both washed our bedding more since we started sleeping together than we ever did! He also just happens to be shaped (and the right size exactly) so that he puts a lot of pressure on my g-spot and I have a fairly sensitve one. I have orgasms now like I never had before. But part of it is that he is also the man of my dreams. I knew the night I met him that he was my soulmate I just didn't admit it for about a month lol. He's the first man I ever really wanted to gaze into his eyes while he is making love to me.
I am happy for you that you found someone like that! I know how it is!
You may want to check out www.the-clitoris.com and read about female ejaculation. That sounds like what you are having. It explains a lot about how and why it happens.
Welcome to the board purplepassion39. Congratulations on finding the man of your dreams!
It sounds like you are experiencing Female Ejaculation (FE) and it is typically brought on by g-spot stimulation. That would be the spot you are feeling inside.
The liquid comes out the urethra, but is not urine.
If you're getting very wet inside, all of a sudden, and gushing as you say, then that would be something different. Not sure of what, but different none the less.
Hopefully they are g-spot orgasms -- they are awesome!!!!
my partner in the siggy exchange
I agree with the others......what you're experiencing is Female Ejaculation. For more info on that, check the link that Ubersilly gave you. (www.the-clitoris.com)
Don't confuse it with lubrication, because it's not. If you try to have intercourse you'll still be dry, because lubrication is from inside the vagina, and it's created by hormones......FE is not coming from the vagina. Once you're past menopause, it's normal to lubricate less.....(unless you're on HRT) and that's why they make lubricants. It has nothing to do with how much you love someone, or how much foreplay you have.....when the estrogen is gone, for many of us, so is the lubrication. I was fine for 20 years until the doc took me off the HRT.
The FE is from stimulation of the "g" spot......and no one ever found it for you before, it was always there! Since your partner never heard of it, educate him too.....so he doesn't think you're "wetting" the bed!
I'll chime in....
The FE doesn't get on the inside of vagina by itself, but the FE that gets on DHs penis does return to the vagina and provide extra lubrication. It's thinner, and doesn't last very long, but the FE usually is recurring -- a win-win situation!
my partner in the siggy exchange
I love your response...I've never felt this way before--and believe me, I've tried. It just happens when it happens, and how funny you say the same thing I do...he's the only man I've ever wanted to gaze into his eyes as we're making love. He's the absolute best thing that's ever happened to me, and I as well knew it the first time I laid eyes on him. I never believed in that before, since you can't 'love' someone if you don't really know them. But with him it was so different.
No one should settle for less than what they want, and so many do. I bartend and see and hear it all. Don't be with someone just to be with someone. Wait for the 'one'. I've known all along that the 'one' existed...just didn't know he was so close.
As for the 'gushing'...OMG! I've never done that before...nor has he. It's insane...
Thanks for the info...and congrats for finding the man of your dreams **gotta tell ya...the man I've been 'dreaming' of the past 20+ years is the one I've finally found, and I'd never want for more, ever. Too bad so many people settle when they shouldn't.
Thanks again.......
M
Purplepassion,
Congrats! Your new love has found your g-spot and you experiencing what most dream of.
Some medical inf0. The womens g-spot is a womens prostate. As it is stimulated the ejaculate fluid builds up inside. Most women feel like they have to pee when this is happening. (don't worry it isn't pee just the ejaculate fluid. if you notice it probably has almost no order or color.) As we have been taught to hold in out pee. So for most women it is hard to let go during this sensation. You have must be very comfortable and relaxed when you two are having sex and comfortable with your sexuality. What is happening to you is you are letting go and having an intense orgasam unlike the kind we get when our clit is stimulated. Don't freak out and there is nothing wrong with you.
I hope you continue to have a great healthy relationship and sex as well.
Aunticrazy
Funny you say that...like I said, forever I've not even thought about having sex without lube. The first time this happened we did think one of us peed...but after the fact, we both had to, :) so we couldn't figure it out, since neither of us had ever experienced that before. I've asked around to my friends and no one else I know has ever experienced it before either...men or women. Strange how old I am and never had this happen. I was married for 17 years and nothing. I've been divorced for 17 years and nothing...until now.
Yes, you're right...my man makes me extremely comfortable. He seems to love everything about me, no matter how imperfect. All my life I've hid from men...been very insecure with my body...lights out! Even candles were too bright. When he told me the only thing about me that turns him off is the fact I hid myself, it caused me to loosen up and let myself just go. He's done so much for me since I've met him (and let me tell you girls...he's a REAL hottie...which is another reason I didn't want him to see me naked. He's the type that could get any girl he wanted...walked right out of my dreams). So this gorgeous man, 13 yrs younger than me, makes me feel so secure with myself...he treats me like a queen...he compliments me all the time...we have no problems being together constantly when he's in town (he's a truck driver :( gone a lot)...he's fun, adorable, gorgeous inside and out...AND sexually, he's the only man I've ever met that's done to me what most women only hear about in books (or online ;)). It's awesome!!!!!
I just have to tell you all...as I've said for years. Don't settle!! When I first got divorced I went from one man to the next...had to have one waiting before I broke it off with the one I was with. Then I got tired of it and needed to get to know myself (I'd never been alone...ever. Went from parents to bf to husband to bf/bf/etc). So I decided to take a little break...be alone. No man. I realized then that I was pretty happy w/o a man in my life...actually a LOT happier without than with the wrong ones. I told myself that I wasn't ever going to settle again...that I wasn't going to get involved until I found that perfect man for me...just not worth it. I have a handful of friends that have found their 'other half', but most people I know settled for the wrong one just because they didn't want to be alone. Gotta tell ya...if you're involved with someone just to be with someone, you'll be bumming if the right one does come along. And I truly believe it will happen. I've always been pretty optimistic about it, but on the other hand, thought I was destined to be alone, since I'm pretty old and hadn't found him yet. But OMG when I did, I knew it from the second we laid eyes on each other. It was insane...like nothing ever before in my life. Wait for it, girls!!! It's absolutely worth the wait.
LOL Can you tell I'm bored tonight? Can't sleep so I decided to ramble to complete strangers. But I'm so happy with my man right now that I had to share...it really saddens me to see people together that aren't as happy as I am. When I saw a good friend of mine find the girl of his dreams, that was when I definitely told myself I wasn't ever going to settle until I was as 'smitten' with someone as he was. And I didn't. And I'm sooooo glad I didn't. Right place, right time. Wasn't looking and there he was...walked right out of my dreams...................................
Any more stories like mine out there? I'm sure there are and I'd love to hear about it.
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