An Apology

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Registered: 09-25-2004
An Apology
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Mon, 05-30-2005 - 1:29pm
Perhaps as of late, I've been a little harsh with some posters. And I apologize for my harshness, not my opinion. I've been under an extreme amount of stress (enough I had to go the hospital). I shouldn't have taken my stress out on other people, but there's that boiling point I reached, and I reached it and I let some things get the better of me. I apologize.
Aisha, I apologize for accussing you of point a finger at me in your cheating/compassion post. You probably weren't. I'm adult enough to give someone the benefit of the doubt.
Cheaters-I'm not going to reply because I don't have anything nice to say.
People Who Can't Get Over Someone's Past-I'm only going to give my opinion. Its up to you whether you take the initiative to change the situation for the better. I can't help you if you can't help yourself.
For anyone else I've offended, I apologize. I let my stress get the better of me. I shouldn't have. I apologize.
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Registered: 04-23-2004
In reply to: jenniekg
Mon, 05-30-2005 - 2:05pm

I do let my personal feelings get in the way at times also.


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Registered: 10-13-2004
In reply to: jenniekg
Mon, 05-30-2005 - 5:34pm

(((hugs))) Jennie

I've been where you are now....posting apologies for comments that were too harsh. The stresses in my life were building up so that I vented in an inappropriate way.

I've found that a good solution is to leave the board for a week or so while I get my stuff back together. I either leave the boards all together - or find a nice board that's not as volatile.

When I'm too irrational to post here, you may find me on the "frugal living" board. Or the "parents of grade schoolers" board. Then when I'm feeling better, I come back.

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Registered: 09-25-2004
In reply to: jenniekg
Mon, 05-30-2005 - 6:05pm
I found that the In-Law board is a good board to go to to vent. Most of my issues come from my MIL and her rather abrasive, demanding presence in the middle of my marriage and my parenting. But, we're working it out. :)
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Registered: 01-07-2005
In reply to: jenniekg
Tue, 05-31-2005 - 3:13am
I'm glad you have the strength to apologize for your words - that takes a very strong soul!! Everyone is entitled to their own viewpoint, however, walking a mile (or two) in someone else's shoes can change your viewpoint in a minute. I wish you well in dealing with your stress - acknowledging it is a major step. Good luck!
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Registered: 08-12-2004
In reply to: jenniekg
Tue, 05-31-2005 - 9:51am
"""I've found that a good solution is to leave the board for a week or so while I get my stuff back together"""

Funny, but that's just what I've done, for this same reason regarding some same threads.
I got a post of mine pulled, took a step back, and thought I'd better take a break.
The cheating stuff does hit me hard at home as my parents, grandparents, siblings , and myself all have been on one side or the other and I have seen so many lives disrupted.
I decided that I should keep quiet for a few and settle.
And I do appologize to anyone who was offended by my sarcastic post.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: jenniekg
Tue, 05-31-2005 - 11:06am
I've also taken breaks from the board over the years as well, sometimes as long as a few months and it helps to get a fresh perspective. You CAN begin taking these conversations a little too seriously.
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Registered: 10-13-2004
In reply to: jenniekg
Tue, 05-31-2005 - 5:50pm

On the other side of the coin, during my stays and breaks, I've also seen my own personality shift for the better. The longer I stay around, the more understanding I gain for what others are going through.

I can look back at some old posts of mine and be horrified at how harsh I was. And yes, I still do slip up now and again, but I'm also learning to emmulate the style of those who manage both compassion and assistance.

There are a couple of my role models on the boards around here.

Dress Up Games, Doll Makers and Cartoon Dolls @ The Doll Palace
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: jenniekg
Tue, 05-31-2005 - 6:03pm

I like that we all have our own personalities and styles and we all have and appreciate different ways of communicating and no one way is better than the other, IMO.

And that's why this board can be so interesting to me personally. IF everyone expressed themselves the same way, it just wouldn't have the same flavor.

When this board takes too much of my time or energy, then I take a break and come back with more patience and renewed interest.




Edited 5/31/2005 6:07 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001