Are you a sex addict?

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Registered: 01-26-2006
Are you a sex addict?
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Fri, 10-31-2008 - 7:40am

The Sunday Times of London just published an article, "Sex addiction: not just for men." See http://tiny.cc/vFMnF.

The article says 30% of those who seek treatment for sex addiction are women. Are you an addict? I might be, since I sleep with lots of men. But I don't have the low self-esteem the article claims is part of the profile of a sex addict. I have a healthy self-esteem. I just like having sex with lots of men! What about you?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 12-12-2006
Fri, 10-31-2008 - 10:14am

What is your definintion of "addiction"?

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-31-2007
Fri, 10-31-2008 - 10:31am
Don't think I fit the bill .... although my DH may argue, LOL.




iVillage Member
Registered: 06-04-2004
Fri, 10-31-2008 - 10:34am
I am a SEX addict! I am addicted to having sex with my DW, as often and as hot as possible!



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iVillage Member
Registered: 08-30-2008
Fri, 10-31-2008 - 1:46pm
Being lustful doesnt mean being addicted. An addiction is something that destroys your life and prevents you from holding down a job or having meaningful relationships and interferes witheveryday life.
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Registered: 02-07-2008
Fri, 10-31-2008 - 3:30pm
Totally addicted & don't want treatment, lol!
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Registered: 02-10-2005
Wed, 11-05-2008 - 12:04am

I am very curious (especially those with high libidos) what is considered normal in terms of frequency. My ex and I would have sex at least 3 times per day (sex including oral or manual stimulation leading to orgasm). We lived together for 1 1/2+ years and this was every day. I had always considered myself someone with a high sex drive, but this was too much for me.

Bottom line, this was not enough for him as I found that he was cheating with an ex and on a swingers website (although most likely for masturbatory purposes only).

What is normal? I consider him a sex addict....is that right?

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Registered: 04-18-2008
Wed, 11-05-2008 - 6:56am
From what you wrote, I would consider him to have a few problems, maybe a sex addict maybe just a jerk. Sorry, I have little tolerance for cheating. If you want out, get out.

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Registered: 01-02-2008
Wed, 11-05-2008 - 8:07am

I did a lot of research for someone regarding bipolar hypersexuality in manias several months ago.

 

 

 

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Registered: 12-25-2006
Wed, 11-05-2008 - 11:01am

Opal,


In your last paragraph you debunked any possibility of being a sex addict...those are the triggers most often associated with an addictive behavior.











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Registered: 03-31-2007
Wed, 11-05-2008 - 11:15am

I don't think there's a "normal" where frequency is concerned. Each couple has what's normal for them, and libido for each person can definitely play into that.

I don't think what he was doing was "normal" for a relationship, especially if it's not something you agreed to. I don't know that it means he's a sex addict though. As others have said, the term is not universally accepted, and for those that do believe it exists, there are several things that factor into the diagnosis. Compromising a relationship is just one of the many.





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