Are you sexually satisfied?
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Are you sexually satisfied?
| Tue, 05-23-2006 - 1:36am |
When intimate with someone new, have you ever felt sexually frusterated? Also, has your partner lacked enthousiasm because he\she cannot seem to make you orgasm?
If so, how would you improve the situation?
Advice and past experiences are more then welcome! ;)

If you're dissatisfied, you need to talk to your guy and let him know what you need and how you need it.
It's not unusual at all to feel that way in a brand new relationship. That's because you're both learning about each other.....and most people "hold back" a little in the beginning, because they're not sure what the other person is used to. That's perfectly normal! As you get to know each other, and you start talking to each other, things usually get much better.
Your partner cannot "make" you have an orgasm, and if they lose enthusiasm because their partner doesn't have them....then they don't understand sex very well, and/or they've got an ego getting in the way. Orgasms are not necessary to have good sex, and they in NO WAY show interest in the partner, or pleasure or lack of it.
Your orgasms are yours, and his are his. Neither of you "makes" the other have them.
PS: that's the kind of attitude that promotes "faking"....something that no one should EVER do!
Seems like a normal reaction if the relationship is based primarily on sexual attraction. If there are deeper feelings involved, then there is still a sense of satisfaction in just being with each other until you figure the physical part out.
I remember getting great pleasure out of just being naked with my DH. It took a while before we knew what the other needed to be fully satisfied though.
None of us can know exactly what the other needs from the start. It may SEEM that way because hormones do most of the work for you as far as attraction & arousal goes. A simple touch on the arm can be enough to start the blood boiling. But it takes lots of communication and trial and error to understand what a new partner needs to be sexually fulfilled.