Arousal during massage

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Registered: 02-02-2004
Arousal during massage
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Sat, 05-21-2005 - 11:22pm

My wife works with a lady who comes to your house and gives a massage for a really cheap price. That's good. What's bad is that a few years ago when we had someone come, I got aroused and embarrased every time. She (therapist) said it was normal and ok, but I didn't feel right about it. One time was so good I was afraid of cumming on the table! I tried masturbating before, thinking of other things- everything and nothing works.
Should I try not to have her come over, tell the therapist this issue beforehand, avoid it and pretend it's not there, or what?

Help!

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Registered: 10-13-2004
Sun, 05-22-2005 - 2:09am

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Registered: 01-11-2004
Sun, 05-22-2005 - 6:44am
Hmmm: For your marriage, you might switch massage therapists.

 

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Registered: 04-01-2003
Sun, 05-22-2005 - 8:56am
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Registered: 01-04-2005
Sun, 05-22-2005 - 9:22pm
First, does your DW know you get exicited. Maybe she would take care of you after your massage. Next talk to the gal and tell her you are getting arroused. Tell her just what she it doing or what part of your body she is working that gets you worked up. Ask if it bothers her if you are excited. Just be honest with your DW and the gal. Maybe your DW would like her to get you worked up and then finish you off. Talk with your DW first.
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Registered: 10-15-2004
Mon, 05-23-2005 - 4:23pm

Brad,
I'm not sure about telling your wife. Most people that are on this message board are fairly open minded when it comes to sex. Most of the women here would not get offended that their DH get aroused during a massage. However, most women in general are not as open minded about sex. I could see that your DW would get very offended by this, very hurt, and think that you find the massage therapist more attractive than her.

The first thing you should do is google "massage message board" or "massage arousal". Do some research to find out how common your problem is. Chances are it is very common. And chances are that if this massage therapist has been doing it for a while, she has run across this problem many times. I doubt she is offended by it. Getting a massage is a very relaxing thing.

But it also can be a very arousing thing as well. Think about it. Skin on skin contact is naturally going to elicit certain responses from the body. You aren't doing it on purpose, but nature is taking over here. My suggestion is to not worry about. Do some internet research. Talk to the therapist. And talk to your wife only if you feel she would not take it out of context and get mad at you for something you can't help.

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Registered: 02-02-2004
Tue, 05-24-2005 - 4:27pm
Thanks for the help, everybody. My wife knew about it when it happened years ago (we haven't had massages since- we moved). I'll let you know by Friday what happens.