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arouses quickly
| Mon, 05-30-2005 - 11:40pm |
My friend and i have recently started having sex with each other we are good friends and we care about each other and our arrangement seems to work fine for both of us. However he gets really aroused very quickly all it takes is a simple kiss and he is ready to go its almost like he can get hard on command.Is that normal? I am really attracted to him but i need a little more foreplay. I am really not that experienced so some feed back would be appreciated.

What has his erection got to do with how much foreplay you need or get? He can give you foreplay while he's erect....and you can be doing the same for him. If he's trying to skip foreplay, just tell him to slow down, and don't let him proceed until you're ready.
That's what FWB's are about. You're friends, and you're BOTH entitled to benefits.
Getting hard that quickly is pretty normal.
Tell him that you need more foreplay. It's not a competition and you should both be enjoying yourselves. Guys have an advantage that they can get up and going really fast but sometimes, with some things, faster isn't better. It won't hurt him learning how to take his time and really please a woman. A quick session of sex is nice sometimes but it's also nice to take your time and take turn pleasing one another. 50/50 remember.
Just be aware that the moment that he finds someone-else this relationship and friends thing could end just like that. Sex does complicate friendships, but at the same time, some friendships wouldn't exist if there wasn't a mutual attraction.
I'm just curious why the two of you have found yourselves in this situation. Sounds like you should be dating rather than in a FWB situation because you see and do so much together. Traditionally people in FWB relationships don't see each other every day and don't always socialise together all the time. It's just a convenience thing for both of them when they do see one another. Personally I think that the idea of FWB has got a bit out of hand and guys and girls are often finding themselves used by one partner that doesn't want to be tied down, rather than being in a true FWB situation where neither partner wants to be tied down.