Average size of a man's penis..

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Average size of a man's penis..
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Tue, 08-10-2004 - 4:01pm
I've been with only two guys and they both are about the same size. I've seen porn and, obviously, men like that are exaggerations of what the average male should be.

So what exactly is the average size of a man's penis? Also, what can he do (i.e. positions, toys) to make it more enjoyable if, say, he is not up to par?

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Registered: 05-27-2004
Tue, 08-10-2004 - 4:10pm
To get an "average" you have to take hundreds of numbers, add them together, then divide by how many numbers. So, "average" means the ones in the middle of the group. The "average" penis is supposed to be about 5.5 to 6 inches. What that means is that out of a hundred men, a few will be average, and the majority will be bigger or smaller, anywhere from 2-3 inches to 10-12 inches. As the old saying goes, "it's not what he's got, it's what he does with it". A woman's vagina will accomodate all sizes within reason. Since vaginas have very little feeling except for the opening and the "g" spot, it really doesn't make a whole lot of difference to most of us. It's the clitoris that gives us the most pleasure, and penis size has nothing to do with clitoral stimulation.

If you care for a man, and he knows how to make love to a woman, it won't matter what his size is. The penis is only ONE of the tools that he has to make a woman happy.

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Registered: 07-22-2004
Tue, 08-10-2004 - 5:24pm
Hi corinne!

The average penis size is going to vary from poll to poll to poll...

...and NO there's no way to determine the average between the polls either, LOL, because there's always going to be polls that we've missed anyway. ;)

I've seen the ol' 6" rule apply more often than not with questions like these. I'm not sure if you're asking this because, for some reason, you feel that the size you get to experience is/was not enough. What I DO remember reading and hearing is that size, as important as it is in itself, is not anywhere NEAR as important as how to use it.

There are just boatloads of techniques that make intercourse completely EXPLOSIVE when performed as instructed. When you ask "what can he do...to make it more enjoyable if...he is not up to par?" then I'm going to guess the "it" refers to intercourse.

Kama Sutra techniques are among the best I know of for this. Here's an article I've found thanks to cl-iv charm from the How to Have Hotter Sex message board:

http://magazines.ivillage.com/cosmopolitan/sex/no/articles/0,,544153_633458,00.html

My favorite is definitely the Bed Spread and then the Randy Rider. Sssssss...LOL! ;)

Reminding your man that concentrating thrusting angles for your G-spot has been a common piece of advice I've read many times too. Along with the great tips you'll still get from here, combine that knowledge with these boards as well:

How to Have Hotter Sex

http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-rlimproveyou

Sexual Pleasure: Orgasms & More

http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-rlpleasurepr

Hope this helps.

:)

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Tue, 08-10-2004 - 5:32pm
Wow. It must be the time of the year for people to ask about penis size. There's been a lot of posts about it recently...

Just repeating what g.t.b said. The average is around 6" and even if it's shorter it's not really going to make a heck of a lot of difference if it's used well, with skill and with care especially when you realise that most sensation is in the outer couple of inches of the vagina. I think that most women would agree that they'd rather have a good, considerate lover with a shorter penis than a beast with a baton.

Of course, a man's self-esteem is often closely linked to his perception of his penis size so penis size is a big deal to most men. Despite it not being a major factor in reality.

If you do crave something larger, introduce some sex toys and enjoy them. Then enjoy the distinct sensations that your man can provide too.

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Tue, 08-10-2004 - 6:00pm
I agree with the other posters, it does not take a large penis for a man to be a good lover.

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Wed, 08-11-2004 - 9:38am
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Registered: 05-27-2004
Wed, 08-11-2004 - 10:17am
VERY scientific survey! 38 women out of the several hundred women who regularly read these boards is not quite what I'd call accurate or all encompassing. No one says that there is NO feeling, but the majority of women do not have vaginal orgasms........because of the lack of nerve endings inside the vagina. Everyone from Kinsey, to Johnson, to Hite to Berman & Berman agree that 75 to 80% of women do not have vaginal orgasms, and that's the reason.

There IS the "g" spot, and if that area is stimulated, there IS feeling THERE. There are also many women who get "pleasure" from intercourse, but it's an "emotional" pleasure rather than a physically induced pleasure.

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Registered: 01-30-2004
Wed, 08-11-2004 - 12:52pm
Yes yes that'd be me clitoral's ok but vaginal is sooooo intense. G-spot and even more important there are some divine nerves at the very back. So: reasonably big fat penises attached to nice guys please.
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Registered: 07-22-2004
Wed, 08-11-2004 - 2:35pm
My wife enjoys the G-spot too, but just like you said, she's always trying to squeeze me in that very back area as well. That back area seems to be her favorite. Earlier strings referred to it as cul-de-sac areas if I'm spelling that right.

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Thu, 08-12-2004 - 12:28am
Seeing as you are the expert (a woman), compared to myself (a man), I will take your word that it is *your* experience. As to the 38; in reality, this comes to 82% of respondents. As to Kinsey, Berman, Johnson, & Hite... respected names, yes, but why all these reports of women saying that there is a "deep" spot that really was never mentioned until recently?? What of cervical orgasms? AFE? Cul de sac?

I get these same responses more and more and I've come to the conclusion that women seem to want to be convinced that size doesn't matter because saying it did makes them shallow. It does not make you or anyone else shallow, it makes you comfortable with your opinion. Christy_la1 gets so much of my respect for being honest with her opinion without jamming the, "it really doesn't make a whole lot of difference to most of us." speech.

Less than 4" and greater than 9" are undesirable lengths; less than thumb and greater than soda can are undesirable girths for *most* of the women who I've seen posting here.

In other words, there is a difference. A little extreme, but there is one.

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Thu, 08-12-2004 - 10:24am
No one ever said it makes NO difference. The point being that MOST men are "average". If that weren't true, then extremely large men wouldn't cause such a sensation (in porno's or in real life!)

Extremely LARGE men can be painful. Extremely SMALL men can be ineffectual when it comes to intercourse. This is why it's said that "it's not what you've got, it's what you do with it". I was once with a man who was unbelievably small. About the "girth" of a finger, and probably no longer than 2-3 inches. It was pitiful! Unfortunately for him, he didn't seem to realize that there was more to "making love" than intercourse. Naturally, sex with him was like not having sex at all. But, if he'd had ANY idea of what foreplay was all about, it might have been a much better experience for me.

If that's ALL a woman looks for in a man, then she IS shallow. Just as shallow as a man who's hung up on breast size, and won't bother with a woman unless she's a 44DD!

Most of us meet, and become interested in a man before we know the size of his penis. If we learn to care about the man as a "person" rather than for the size of his equipment, then we will accept whatever size he is. But, in addition to that, the man has to know what it takes to please a woman, and for MOST women there's a lot more to it than intercourse. I was married for 20 years to a man who was probably somewhat larger than average. But the only thing he knew about sex was to use me for a "receptacle". There was NO foreplay, (at least not for ME), and when he was "ready" we just "did it", he rolled over and went to sleep. I was young, and dumb, and had no idea of what it was supposed to be like. I've grown up a LOT since then, and I would never put up with that again. I've been in a couple of relationships where the man was just average, nothing more, but they KNEW how to make love to a woman, and that was the key. They were just as interested in MY pleasure as they were in their own.

Yes, in some ways it would be nice to be with a man who's larger.....but only if he knows what he's doing, and only if he realizes that sex is for BOTH people to enjoy. Unfortunately, since MEN are "hung up" on size.....quite often the larger men depend on THAT to satisfy a woman, and it never will. Not a woman who knows what it is to be with a man who is a LOVER, rather than an egotist that thinks that all women should be thrilled with his size. Young and inexperienced women (and experience means a lot MORE than "numbers") have probably never been with a man who knows how to give a woman pleasure, so they THINK that size makes a difference. Talk to these same women in 20 years, and you'll probably get a different answer. (and the majority of the respondents here are YOUNG!)

Again, since most of us don't do an "inspection" before becoming involved with a man....if we learn to care for the man, when it comes to sex, we'll take whatever he has, and love it, as long as he knows ALL the ways to pleasure a woman. That is why an experienced "woman" (as opposed to a "young" woman) will say that it really doesn't matter, and it doesn't.

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