Average size of a man's penis..

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Registered: 08-05-2004
Average size of a man's penis..
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Tue, 08-10-2004 - 4:01pm
I've been with only two guys and they both are about the same size. I've seen porn and, obviously, men like that are exaggerations of what the average male should be.

So what exactly is the average size of a man's penis? Also, what can he do (i.e. positions, toys) to make it more enjoyable if, say, he is not up to par?

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Registered: 08-13-2004
Fri, 08-13-2004 - 7:06pm
I'm new to this board...perhaps I can shed "new" light on this topic, or at least provide food for thought.

It's unfortunate that we don't truly look at the negative effects the porn industry has had on its very target audience: men. My guess is that men view pornographic material at least ten times more frequently than women, and with the internet, accessing pornography is easier (and more private) than ever. But it is so destructive to men...

I was about twelve years old the first time I encountered (by accident on pay TV) a pornographic film. Until then, I had never seen an erect penis (other than my own) and I was astonished and horrified--horrified that mine would not ever be as large as the ones in the movie which, it was "evident," always did a good job of pleasing the woman. I'd say that most males have had a similar experience. Furthermore, this was my introduction to sexuality: what men and women did in bed or what they were SUPPOSED to do in bed. You'll notice the variety of positions in a pornographic video...it's amazing.

It is possible that the concern over size isn't simply a matter of "Am I big enough to please you?" It's more a matter of, "Am I big enough to do all the things you want to do in bed?" Unforunately, those of us who are sensitive about ourselves and who have had encounters in which "things didn't fit right" because we were too small, are left to ask this question all by ourselves. The "Does size matter" question is too general and oversimplifies the issue. It's a matter of not being big enough to reach the vagina in side by side sex, rear entry sex, standing sex, etc.

Take a look at the positions someone posted here earlier...the Cosmo Hot Ten Positions...this doesn't help matters at all. Many men will look at these positions and say, "I am not long enough or big enough to do that." And the then cruel inner critic goes to work.

Bottom line is, most men aren't concerned if they are big enough to "please" a woman. In missionary position sex, most probably can if they know what they are doing. But it's the ADVANCED positions, it's the variation that pose a problem for men with small penises and causes endless dread.

Sorry for the length of the post...but I'm a newbie and had something to get off my chest!

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Registered: 07-18-2001
Fri, 08-13-2004 - 8:15pm
Yep, the position thing is another issue that makes me shake my head. If one reads the position "tips" that _Cosmo_ and other sources (including posters on these boards) give, often one of the reasons the particular position is said to be particularly enjoyable is because it allows deeper penetration and/or a tighter "fit." Well, gee, if deep and tight are good things, then what does that say about a longer and fatter penis compared to a shorter, thinner one?
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Registered: 04-23-2004
Fri, 08-13-2004 - 9:43pm

"It doesn't matter; he can make up for it in other ways." That one's completely oxymoronic. If one size is just as good as any another, what is there to make up FOR?


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Registered: 07-18-2001
Sat, 08-14-2004 - 12:51am
>What there is to make up for is some men do not realize or know that most women cannot orgasm through intercourse without one of two things

No, that would be something in need of CORRECTION, not COMPENSATION. There's a difference.

This is what Muttley is talking about as to to why this topic never goes away. Instead of addressing the issue and putting it to rest, people simply change the subject. I presented for consideration the commonly voiced statement, "Size doesn't matter. It can be made up for in other ways," wondering aloud how somebody can compensate for something if that something doesn't matter in the first place. Rather than *answer* the question, you *changed* the question, transforming "it" from a lack of size, which is the clearly obvious reference, to technique issues that "some men do not realize."

Don't get me wrong, I'm not disputing anything in the "meat" (no pun intended) of your essay, nor am I saying technique and knowledge aren't extremely important. I'm just saying that all of that doesn't have a thing to do with my question of why somebody would need to compensate for something that is supposedly of no consequence anyway.

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Registered: 05-27-2004
Sat, 08-14-2004 - 12:59am
I can't speak for Tish, but my feathers certainly aren't ruffled. Like you, I get tired of the same question being asked over and over, but usually it's being asked by a new poster, who hasn't taken the time to read older posts. The same goes for the women who say "HELP, I can't have orgasms"! If you suddenly discover these boards, I think most women (and men) say to themselves, "WOW, finally a place for me to ask those questions I've never been able to ask my family, friends, doctor, etc. So they ask!

I think a lot of questions that are asked here are because proper Sex Education isn't being taught in the schools, OR at home. It's very sad when kids experiment with NO knowledge of reproduction issues or STD issues. It's sad when kids panic, thinking they're pregnant because "someone" told them it's ok if he pulls out, or that you're "safe" at certain times. Or they have unprotected sex and find out they have Herpes, or Genital warts, and they realize they are now facing a lifetime of sexual problems. Proper education could eliminate a lot of these questions and problems.

As for men's sizes, I think a lot more men than women worry about the size of a penis. It's the "locker room" syndrome. Young guys see other guys in the locker room, and since every human being is made differently, they see guys that look "big", and they compare themselves, and come up "short" (pun intended). You alluded to that yourself. What even a lot of guys don't understand is that when you see each other in the locker room, hopefully what you see is NOT an erection. I wonder if men even know that a flaccid penis is no indication of what size it will become when it's erect. There are men with very small penises "at rest", but when they're erect they are pretty much "normal". Some men with very large penises "at rest" will remain almost the same size when they're erect.

I have to take exception at one statement you made.....when a woman has a choice between two men who are pretty much equal, they'll pick the one who's penis will "fit their vagina". Theoretically, all penises fit all vaginas. I know, there will be exceptions, but a properly aroused vagina will accomodate any size within reason. If a man with a very small penis is with a woman who's experienced, and easily aroused, he may feel that he's not big enough, because she's well lubricated, and there's less friction for him. But as we've said over and over, it's not making a whole lot of difference for her, if she's getting clitoral stimulation at the same time. But if a man is with a virgin, or very inexperienced young woman, she's nervous, she's not lubricated, and she's tight, so that same "small" man will think he's too big for her.

It's not very often that a woman will have a choice between two men who are equal in every way except for penis size. IF that ever happened, of course she's going to pick the bigger of the two. BUT, in real life, if a woman meets the man of her dreams, and he's NOT very well endowed, she'll figure out how to get all the pleasure she wants from him. (given of course that he's cooperative about that!)

I hope that settles the issue. Yes, given a choice between two equals, 99% of women would pick the larger man......but I've never had that choice, and I doubt if many women have. Whatever it's size, we love it if it's attached to the right person.

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Registered: 12-24-2003
Sat, 08-14-2004 - 2:25am
Voila!

Settled.

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Sat, 08-14-2004 - 9:40am

Don't worry Muttley, not ruffled feathers here either.


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Registered: 12-24-2003
Mon, 08-16-2004 - 12:26am
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True that.

Just for the record, if I were told to choose between two women totally equal in every respect except for vaginal tightness, barring extreme conditions, I would choose the tighter of the two.

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Registered: 02-02-2004
Mon, 08-16-2004 - 12:34am
You're right. Don't know if I'm avg. or not, but I must be 5-6 inches just reading this board LOL
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Registered: 02-15-2004
Mon, 08-16-2004 - 2:25am
ok..

and given the same circumstance between two women that are exactly the same except that one has large labia(labia sticking out) and one that does not have large labia. 99% of men would choose the women without large labia (labia sticking out).