Aware of your breasts
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| Fri, 01-13-2006 - 2:10pm |
Ladies, this may seem like a strange question but, are you aware of your breasts, in particular, what they are touching
Here’s the scenario, I work as a computer consultant. Many of my users are ladies. Most of the time I will sit at their computer working on their issue while they are looking over my shoulder. Often they will lean forward to point out something or show me what is wrong. Not every time, but frequently their breasts will press up against my back. I try to be a gentleman and move forward to give them more room, but sometimes I’m not able to.
My question is, is this something that they are not even thinking about. Do they not notice it? Do they even care? Should I just ignore it or attempt to move farther out of the way, or perhaps get up altogether?
I don’t want to sound like a pervert, but I do notice when a woman’s breast is touching me. I just want to know if they notice it and perhaps mean more than just “ooops”.
Thank you for your response.
c

We had a very similar posting on this board very recently but in regards to hair stylists.
Let me ask you this....are you aware of your balls? I'm sure the answer is yes and that also applies to women and our breasts.
Of course women are aware when their breasts are touching something.....or someone. But it's hard to say what any particular woman may be thinking in the situations you described. And IF a woman is very large busted at all, it's not always easy to get close without touching the person in front of you!
Often, a woman may be so preoccupied with what you're telling or showing her, that she simply doesn't pay attention that she's making contact with you. OR she may not care that she's against you. Or she actually likes making the contact. Hard to say since every situation, AND woman, is different.
Interesting question.
Mr. Gentleman,
GREAT question! I'm a business man myself, and the offices have always had situations from time to time that make the atmosphere (lack of better term of course) a little uncomfortable, particularly in this fashion you mentioned.
Exposing more cleavage, especially when bending forward to pick up something, or invading your bubble space, such as your situation, or even 'carelessly' wearing tighter clothing or using provocative positions...
Whatever the case, it IS discomforting for the gents, and I even remember a CLASS being taught on how to a) avoid those situations if possible, and b) get through those unavoidable situations. Unfortunately, I don't have any links or contact info to get a hold of those sessions, but I was under the impression they'd be more standard as time wore on, yet this was back in the late '80s believe it or not.
Back to YOUR case though...
YES, women are very well aware of their bodies and especially those sensitive areas, including the bust. Some are very comfortable with certain things, whereas others wouldn't think of it.
My best advice to you, while at your desk for example, is to moving your chair over to the side and even shifting the monitor or paperwork or what have you. Set the scene for the lady(ies) to view the subject/material you instead of you. Set the scene to "limit" any physical contact.
This works in other areas too, FYI in case it comes in handy. If you a particular lady there to be a little too comfortable with , then mark that in your memory banks and avoid avoid avoid when possible. That is NOT the type of friend you want if you're spoken for, and its certainly not someone you'd want to have constant contact with anyway in such a professional setting. Remember, thats IF you can avoid. Numerous women? Yep, been there done that regarding what you went through. YES, I've heard both positive AND negative stories regarding what happened after seeking advice from a supervisor/manager or even Human Resources...so deal with that part very carefully if you feel the need for that option. (Psst...our class at the time suggested legal advice prior to any other...they were THAT cautious about it, lol).
Good luck with that, sir. Hope you keep us updated, very serious quirk you're in IMHO.
C H A R A C T E R