Awesome Sex......but he never finishes..

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Registered: 05-25-2003
Awesome Sex......but he never finishes..
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Fri, 10-06-2006 - 11:23pm

I'm 33, he's 38. We've been together since the beginning of July. He told me that he loved me on our 5th date.....it scared the hell out of me....my last relationship was pretty bad...I kept going back...guess I was trying to fix something that was beyond broken. Anyway, John, my new MAN...is awesome. I knew it was early to love him....but eventually I fell for him, too. We've had this discussion - everytime we have sex - it truly is "making love".....(don't roll your eyes with this one...how I feel it's differen't - we never use the F word...never use the C word or P word...lol...it's the little things like that....his actions...his touch...that's love making for us). Anyway, besides the fact that everytime we have sex it is amazing/spiritual...he is as hard as a rock...he gets hard with a smile from me...from a phone conversation....we totally make out while doing it. He can totally make me shiver from kissing my skin....and orally - WOW.....and me on him orally - I have never gone down on a guy who is so verbal while I'm doing it - it is very cool.

So...the reason why I write tonight? While I totally am satisfied.....he has yet to finish inside of me. In the 2+ months we've been together he hasn't....has been either left with "blue balls"....or "took care of himself" next to me afterwards (of course I would not be thrilled with this...but the guy just totally made me come countless times...I had to cut him some slack). He said he has had this problem in the past - when he has cared about a woman. When he doesn't care - no problem....shoots off like a rocket. Sometimes I feel like I have to hold back on the "Oh baby...I love you" during sex because it might negatively affect his ability to finish. He said he has spoken to a buddy....he knows he should speak to a professional. Any ideas on how to help him? I have asked him.....he just says, "stay close to me" as he "spanks the monkey" after we go through an amazing lovemaking session....(which isn't the most thrilling thing afterwards....)

I love this man......

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Registered: 10-01-2006
Thu, 10-12-2006 - 6:49am
Thank you, I know I should know that but it helps to have an outside view.

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