The "B" word?
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The "B" word?
| Mon, 03-13-2006 - 12:12pm |
I mentioned to my SO that I would like things to be a little rougher....and we talked about all kinds of things that were ok with me ...then he said "what do you want me to call you while being rough?" He said I have heard people use the B word "
Is that something that guys normally do?call women thigns like that ?I didnt really take offence to it ,Just kinda made me wonder WHY he would go so far as to call me something like that ?

Is the B word bitch?
There's no such thing as "normal" when it comes to sex. Whatever you want, whatever you enjoy, that's "normal" for you. Many people think that anything beyond "missionary" isn't "normal", and that's their right. But the rest of the world doesn't have to agree.
When it comes to "rough" sex, every one has different ideas and opinions, too. If you two are usually verbal during sex....then the the words might get rougher, or "dirtier", too. If you didn't like his idea, then you should have told him right then and there. It sounds like he really doesn't know what you mean by "rough". Explain to him what YOUR idea of "rough" is.
There are some ethnic groups that use the "B" word frequently, in what they think is a complimentary way, but most of us wouldn't be to happy being called that. There are also worse things he could call you.
If you want to change things, you have to explain what you mean.
Why does he have to call you anything during rougher sex? Calling me names would do nothing for ME sexually!
But if all you want is more physical aggression during sex, then give him the thumbs down on the foul names. Only he can tell you why he made the suggestion in the first place though.
I think on the Taboo board we recently had a similar discussion.
Yes - some people like to talk dirty as part of "rougher" sex. That dirty talk can include calling each other names - like bitch, whore, slut, etc... My bf & I engage in this kind of dirty talk on occasion and when I'm in the right mood - having him call me names like that really turns me on. But - it's not for everyone.
I agree with what another poster said about telling him what *you* mean by rougher sex. Be specific- do you want him to do things harder? Do you want him to bite? Pull hair? Etc... Rougher means different things to different people - so it's best just to be straight forward with exactly what you want.
Good luck & have fun ;-)
Based upon what I've read from around the boards, it sounds like a possessive statement more than anything. Its the same with why some couples use handcuffs and things like that. Its just a kinky way of saying I want you and claim you...thats what I read from it. Nothing more to it really.
Did give any other clue as to why?
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Even though he tells me its not my fault... I cant help but feel it is in some way ,...he did tell me he needed me to do more, and that he wasnt feeling connected to me because of the distance ...But he really didnt give me a c
I would never do it, personally. But that's just me.
:)