Bad boys?..whats the attraction?
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Bad boys?..whats the attraction?
| Mon, 09-20-2004 - 4:58pm |
Is it true that many women want a really nice guy, but only after they have had their brains screwed out by all the bad boys they can handle? What is the attraction of a male slut, who treats a woman so poorly?

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The typical Bad Boy:
is cocky, arrogant
always puts himself first
is inattentive to a woman's needs
does what he wants when he wants to do it, regardless of what anyone else thinks
acts like a loose cannon
struts his masculine sexuality
isn't even remotely a "nice" guy
treats women badly
often uses women for sex
**the most important thing here is he "treats women badly." Generally speaking, how a person treats you, does not always determine their character. I woudln't look at this from only how a person treats you, but also and most importantly how they treat others. I would have a problem with a person who can be a sweetheart to me and my family, but talks down to the waitress and treats women in general with disrespect. It may eventually bite you back. Can someone make a complete personality change? I think so, but I believe to do that, it has to be across the board, not just situational(only when they benefit from it{which is typical of selfishness}).
Edited 9/21/2004 10:59 am ET ET by prettyinpurple2004
I sense behind this question that you are still struggling with your wife's past. This line of questioning that you've posted is not going to help.
THere are two files in the human mind that most of us misuse: File one - "Things I can do something about" FIle two - "Things I can't Do anything about". You have misfiled your wife's past in the "Things I can do something about". Consider re-filing and using all of the energy that you will save by focusing on FIle one...things you can do something about: Like being loving and supportive, finding your way in the world, finding how you can serve your fellow man, learning to be a better husband or lover or friend...I think you know what I mean.
Every moment offers us the choice between a miracle and a grievance. Quit choosing the grievance and you will be much more happy. If you keep focusing on what happened in the past (before you every met her), you will miss everything that is happening now...and that is all that there is my friend.
Peace.
Scott.
A few things I completely disagree with you on in my opinion.
I think she had told me one of bf`s was a bad boy, but it wasnt her past that promted this bad boy posting. In fact it may have been some things that I observed in the past that inspired it.
I know that one cant change the past, and I also know that people can and do change their patterns of behavior. In many cases its called maturity.
I dont think Im any different than most men (or women for that matter).Who hasnt wondered about your mates former lover at one time or another? I think its a natural curiosity. It becomes an unhealthy obsession if one constantly dwells on it, and it affects their current affairs. Her past hasnt affected my view of her at all, Im blessed to have her.
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