Bad boys?..whats the attraction?
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Bad boys?..whats the attraction?
| Mon, 09-20-2004 - 4:58pm |
Is it true that many women want a really nice guy, but only after they have had their brains screwed out by all the bad boys they can handle? What is the attraction of a male slut, who treats a woman so poorly?

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Strange, I remember witnessing many women becoming better along with their men after being involved in trusting relationships...not all of them have been as negative as experiences describe.
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Mr. Para
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I don't know about anyone else, but bad boys have never held an appeal to me personally.
Fear
I mean hey, i havent exactly had the easiest time understanding my sexual identity as i move towards mid-20's. In fact-growing hasnt ever seemed more confusing a battle- i cant imagine this a nicely smooth sailin' aquirement of self for a single damned female out there.
I'll admit, I'm slightly biased as to the ways I've witnessed some of society MORE GENERALLY tending to positively encourage males towards openly exploring their sexuality earlier; yet at the same time females around the similiar age group I've seen MORE GENERALLY discouraged away from sexual behavior/identity typically by the social "norm" (if not by negative asssociations from the laws of nature:blood/pain w/menstration/fear of pregnancy/fear of penetration; not to mention awareness of rape,incest..).
What gets me the most confused lately (just going by what i've seen-i need your perspectives!) is the tendancy for males to be able to develop a MORE GENERALLY-accepted seperation in their relationships between the material(purely physical significance) and the mental processes(emotional,any cognitive reasoning:..moral,ect.). Now those are obviously the two opposite ends of the spectrum, but is it just me, or has it been more common that we watch our male friends making more COMFORTABLY generous leaps across to their likings of the spectrum, over watching the same of our female friends?
If you know kinda what i'm saying, also know that personally, i find such an undertaking close to humanly impossible-unless really mentally ill or something. I mean, no one could just strictly obey their most immediate animalistic impulses 100% of the time or we would have no difference from most of the more natural living species around us: we're just the sentiently-impaired cognitive fools of this world. But why then does it appear to me to be easier for that mind/body seperation by a guy then a girl; and also socially acceptable to be so? S*it, sometimes it just seems damn unfair....ya ya if u tell me life is unfair i might have ta sock ya.
see? ive even become slightly more apt towards a physically batted out solution in all my recent insanity-and im just_some_grl! That, and i quit havin sex! I cant stop thinking about this kind of crap whether it be my age, race, sex, religion, or what i dunno-but whatever it is, it takes a lot for an extremley passionate, sexual, once mentally healthy person to just suddenly chose to opt out!
I was startin to think i was the only one with (without?) any sense...thanks for the breath of fresh air "ivmalealterego".....
i was also startin ta think, woah! maybe u can just drop dead if u go without sex for too long!! and hopefully i'll continue to understand this as false until i figure myself the *%ck out.
Hands down ta the much needed distinction between needs and desires, choice and self control.
And any distinctions any1 can bring into anything i've laid out just_some_grl could use please!!!!
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